Wondering if i should put a counter on my blog to humiliate myself.. HAhahaha
Sian.. Stuck at home to do the trials and study...
I need a life.
Maybe I should sell a product by the name of 'Life'
hahah my tag line is "Get a life"
K lame
HAHAHAHAHHAAH
Sunday, October 30, 2005
I ended because my breakfast was here...
I just wanna mention something else
I think many of the human rights supporters will be jumping when they see this post (not for joy definitely)
Anyway, from my previous entry, it is easy to infer that I think human rights can be consented away. Meaning, if they people choose to do something wrong, they have no human rights. That is not what i am proposing.
My idea of Human rights is based upon people making choices (as wrong as i may be), and i will go as far as saying the state policies should not be subjected to Human rights (which is very wrong for many of you out there.) Let my try to explain myself first:
My idea of Human rights is based upon the choices people make, you have the right to make choices in what you want to do, how to do it, legally or illegally. The consequences that comes with it is because of the choices they make. They will be punished or awarded based on those choices, the right of choice. The consequences are sought of foreseeable and ought not be subsumed under 'right', if need be, perhaps 'right to be punished', because each one is rational individual (an assumption...)
The state ought not to be subjected to my idea of human rights because the choice is by individuals. The consequences sanction by the state is decided after weighing the rights of different categories of people. Some balance ought to be struck definitely, but more often than not, other factors such as the market interest, relationships with other countries etc will come into play. The state has also to be stern about their principles on certain things.
Anyway, at the end of the day, a lot of laws are not those that we break on a habitual basis. If we eat, work, shit, sleep as normal human beings. Will we go around killing people? Will we traffic drugs? Will we do weird things like pointing third finger at ur neighbour?
I just wanna mention something else
I think many of the human rights supporters will be jumping when they see this post (not for joy definitely)
Anyway, from my previous entry, it is easy to infer that I think human rights can be consented away. Meaning, if they people choose to do something wrong, they have no human rights. That is not what i am proposing.
My idea of Human rights is based upon people making choices (as wrong as i may be), and i will go as far as saying the state policies should not be subjected to Human rights (which is very wrong for many of you out there.) Let my try to explain myself first:
My idea of Human rights is based upon the choices people make, you have the right to make choices in what you want to do, how to do it, legally or illegally. The consequences that comes with it is because of the choices they make. They will be punished or awarded based on those choices, the right of choice. The consequences are sought of foreseeable and ought not be subsumed under 'right', if need be, perhaps 'right to be punished', because each one is rational individual (an assumption...)
The state ought not to be subjected to my idea of human rights because the choice is by individuals. The consequences sanction by the state is decided after weighing the rights of different categories of people. Some balance ought to be struck definitely, but more often than not, other factors such as the market interest, relationships with other countries etc will come into play. The state has also to be stern about their principles on certain things.
Anyway, at the end of the day, a lot of laws are not those that we break on a habitual basis. If we eat, work, shit, sleep as normal human beings. Will we go around killing people? Will we traffic drugs? Will we do weird things like pointing third finger at ur neighbour?
Tot i'll write a short one before looking for facts in my mock trials, and since i managed to read the papers today. Hahahah i realised ST is easier to understand than the evening chinese papers. The colour pictures are just too distracting for me, half the time sensationalising the news, telling me everything but what really happened... Is this what chinese pple are concern about now? as the Morning chinese paper grow thinner and thinner, i wonder what is actually available for them.
Anyhow, in the very slim chinese morning papers, I read an article about Australians (pple in melbourne) opposing our death penalty. Local court had sentence a Australian-Vietnamese(Aus by Nationality and Viet by birth, i think) to death penalty because of drug trafficking. This sparked the whole debate (again) about us not respecting human rights, etc. Being pressured by his people and the opposition party over there, the PM actually requested Singapore to be lenient when sentencing. In contrary to his earlier statement that Aus will not interfere when Australians break the laws of other countries.
(NB: anything that i'm writing is based on that article that i read)
I have to agree with the author to a great extent that we should not back down on this.
We had our death penalty since 1975, why in the world should we change our law, just because a foreigner has broken it HERE, with knowledge that death penalty existed HERE?
Apart from unusual circumstances such as some gang has kidnapped his family and threatened him into doing this.
If he wanted to escape death penalty, traffic the drug somewhere where there isn't any death penalty. I bet trafficking drug to Singapore gives them a higher profit margin because of the tough penalties here. So if you had assumed the risked because of the extra profits, That is a risk he has assumed and it materialised. What do these people want? A fair drug market ah?
Secondly, the essence of death penalty is to deter, granted, there are still people trafficking drugs, hence it is not 100% successful at deterring. This might be due to reasons of higher profits and demand (mayb in some extreme cases, just for the fun...) For a reasonable person, an act that attacts a punishment as serious as death will make him think twice before doing it. So logically speaking, EVEN the death penalty cannot ensure 100% no trafficking of drugs, wouldn't lessening the penalty make it more attractive to traffic drugs here?
Thirdly, the author mentioned that these people are crying out loud for human rights. So you see us as suppressing the accused, what about when the accused sell those drugs and affect thousands of people, who's family are broken up because of all the repercussions that drug addiction brings? What about the rights of these people? Should they not be protected then? In weighing out the rights of innocent consumers (as they always assume) and those people bring the drugs in from less regulated areas. The choice has to be made by the state, and the choice is clear.
Of cos, it may be argued that human rights activists are not asking for no penalty at all, but death penalty is just not justified. Well, as i mentioned above, it is meant as a deterrance. And Singapore is famous for her death penalty for drug trafficking. There seemed to be no reason why a drug trafficker won't have knowledge of the sentence that is attached to the crime. So equiped with that knowledge, he thought he could have made it out with more money than the same batch of drugs can fetch. Unfortunately for him, he was caught. The risks he had undertook came true, he was sentenced to death. Sad, yes. But he had implied consented. (hahahah contracts...)
i'm not some cruel bitch who want to see people dead. In fact, the first time i sat in high court to listen to a murder trial, i felt bad thinking that the max sentence for that man is death penalty, regardless of what i said before trial.
However, i believe the penalty is justified for drugs trafficking than murder (except of cos a serial killer or that sort). Murder may be because of a split second of rage, but not all rage cases can come under CHNAM (culpable homicide not amounting to murder). Drug traffickers are actually earning money by selling poison..
Once again, everyone entitled to their views. I'm just writing my stand...
Anyhow, in the very slim chinese morning papers, I read an article about Australians (pple in melbourne) opposing our death penalty. Local court had sentence a Australian-Vietnamese(Aus by Nationality and Viet by birth, i think) to death penalty because of drug trafficking. This sparked the whole debate (again) about us not respecting human rights, etc. Being pressured by his people and the opposition party over there, the PM actually requested Singapore to be lenient when sentencing. In contrary to his earlier statement that Aus will not interfere when Australians break the laws of other countries.
(NB: anything that i'm writing is based on that article that i read)
I have to agree with the author to a great extent that we should not back down on this.
We had our death penalty since 1975, why in the world should we change our law, just because a foreigner has broken it HERE, with knowledge that death penalty existed HERE?
Apart from unusual circumstances such as some gang has kidnapped his family and threatened him into doing this.
If he wanted to escape death penalty, traffic the drug somewhere where there isn't any death penalty. I bet trafficking drug to Singapore gives them a higher profit margin because of the tough penalties here. So if you had assumed the risked because of the extra profits, That is a risk he has assumed and it materialised. What do these people want? A fair drug market ah?
Secondly, the essence of death penalty is to deter, granted, there are still people trafficking drugs, hence it is not 100% successful at deterring. This might be due to reasons of higher profits and demand (mayb in some extreme cases, just for the fun...) For a reasonable person, an act that attacts a punishment as serious as death will make him think twice before doing it. So logically speaking, EVEN the death penalty cannot ensure 100% no trafficking of drugs, wouldn't lessening the penalty make it more attractive to traffic drugs here?
Thirdly, the author mentioned that these people are crying out loud for human rights. So you see us as suppressing the accused, what about when the accused sell those drugs and affect thousands of people, who's family are broken up because of all the repercussions that drug addiction brings? What about the rights of these people? Should they not be protected then? In weighing out the rights of innocent consumers (as they always assume) and those people bring the drugs in from less regulated areas. The choice has to be made by the state, and the choice is clear.
Of cos, it may be argued that human rights activists are not asking for no penalty at all, but death penalty is just not justified. Well, as i mentioned above, it is meant as a deterrance. And Singapore is famous for her death penalty for drug trafficking. There seemed to be no reason why a drug trafficker won't have knowledge of the sentence that is attached to the crime. So equiped with that knowledge, he thought he could have made it out with more money than the same batch of drugs can fetch. Unfortunately for him, he was caught. The risks he had undertook came true, he was sentenced to death. Sad, yes. But he had implied consented. (hahahah contracts...)
i'm not some cruel bitch who want to see people dead. In fact, the first time i sat in high court to listen to a murder trial, i felt bad thinking that the max sentence for that man is death penalty, regardless of what i said before trial.
However, i believe the penalty is justified for drugs trafficking than murder (except of cos a serial killer or that sort). Murder may be because of a split second of rage, but not all rage cases can come under CHNAM (culpable homicide not amounting to murder). Drug traffickers are actually earning money by selling poison..
Once again, everyone entitled to their views. I'm just writing my stand...
Friday, October 28, 2005
Just had a chat with my mom and sister, then i realised that i have been really lazy for the past year, compared to my days in YJ.
Sian... I think of the things i want to do in my life, and see that i have to work very hard to get them.. tt's when i start to give myself excuses to slack. E.g. too many smart people in law school, no way i can get a good grade.
Think of working hard just ... sounds tired... hhahahahaha yes, i'm plain lazy. My philosophy in life is "You gotta work hard to be lazy." Perfectly logical when you think about it..
Good bye Maple Story... Even if I don't get to go China for exchange, it is still for my own good to do relatively better this sem..
HAI...
It is when you try ur very best, and u get screwed up...
Perhaps tt's what i'm trying to pre-empt... as usual...
Sian.
Muah Ji in action..
Good bye to Muah Ji Me.
Wenrong
Sian... I think of the things i want to do in my life, and see that i have to work very hard to get them.. tt's when i start to give myself excuses to slack. E.g. too many smart people in law school, no way i can get a good grade.
Think of working hard just ... sounds tired... hhahahahaha yes, i'm plain lazy. My philosophy in life is "You gotta work hard to be lazy." Perfectly logical when you think about it..
Good bye Maple Story... Even if I don't get to go China for exchange, it is still for my own good to do relatively better this sem..
HAI...
It is when you try ur very best, and u get screwed up...
Perhaps tt's what i'm trying to pre-empt... as usual...
Sian.
Muah Ji in action..
Good bye to Muah Ji Me.
Wenrong
hey guys, sorry man, haven been updating my blog since god-knows-when...
Don't really have anything controversial, or interesting, or intellectual to put on my blog... But den again, i think nothing much here's any of the above, Hiakz
Anyhow, much of my life is taken up by Maple story, studying and Paul plus trying to get some social life. Blogging isn't really a priority right now..
Plus all the hype about bloggers being charged with the Sedition Act... Talking about the internet is a free space, to support free speech.
Look, like i've said one year ago, and i still stand by what i say now. You know very well you are writing on a public domain, you know there will be people looking whether or not u secure ur blog with a password. So if you face the consequences when you try to play with the rules.
Freedom of speech will only come if people start taking responsibilities of what they say.
Many people wont agree, my Law frens definitely. And i don't intend to argue with them. Everyone is entitled to their views. If they think that Singaporeans can afford to have more freedom in whatever they do when they cannot even take the responsibility to preserve the very fabric that Singapore is made up of, den so be it.
what xia.... suddenly i'm so popular on msn, everyone started msging me... 2 of them asking for muggers, one to ask me if i'm goin to the LFC retreat tml, one asking me about my fren whom he is interested in and... one asking if i'm free for gathering on sunday...
Law Sch's student exchange program just started taking in application. Initially i din wanna apply. First, my grades are really bad since year 1. I need my year 3 to pull them up in case i fall into the 2-2 category (which BCG won't wanna employ). Second, it will cost quite a bit, even if i'm goin to China. Sigh..
When i looked at the application form today and think about who to ask as referee, i realised i haven accomplished much in Law school. I wonder how many tutors really have a good impression or perhaps even an impression of me being in their class. I know i definitely have improved in some ways since Law Sch started. But i've also become more critical of myself, less confident in sch and i guess it is unhealthy?
I just received my prop law assignment grades yesterday - B-. I was told many people din do well. But then again, i've put in a lot of effort into this assignment, then. Then my fren who surf the net during tutorials got a better grade than me. Isn't it frustrating when however hard you work, you simply cannot get pass a certain grade?
I need to work harder.
Don't really have anything controversial, or interesting, or intellectual to put on my blog... But den again, i think nothing much here's any of the above, Hiakz
Anyhow, much of my life is taken up by Maple story, studying and Paul plus trying to get some social life. Blogging isn't really a priority right now..
Plus all the hype about bloggers being charged with the Sedition Act... Talking about the internet is a free space, to support free speech.
Look, like i've said one year ago, and i still stand by what i say now. You know very well you are writing on a public domain, you know there will be people looking whether or not u secure ur blog with a password. So if you face the consequences when you try to play with the rules.
Freedom of speech will only come if people start taking responsibilities of what they say.
Many people wont agree, my Law frens definitely. And i don't intend to argue with them. Everyone is entitled to their views. If they think that Singaporeans can afford to have more freedom in whatever they do when they cannot even take the responsibility to preserve the very fabric that Singapore is made up of, den so be it.
what xia.... suddenly i'm so popular on msn, everyone started msging me... 2 of them asking for muggers, one to ask me if i'm goin to the LFC retreat tml, one asking me about my fren whom he is interested in and... one asking if i'm free for gathering on sunday...
Law Sch's student exchange program just started taking in application. Initially i din wanna apply. First, my grades are really bad since year 1. I need my year 3 to pull them up in case i fall into the 2-2 category (which BCG won't wanna employ). Second, it will cost quite a bit, even if i'm goin to China. Sigh..
When i looked at the application form today and think about who to ask as referee, i realised i haven accomplished much in Law school. I wonder how many tutors really have a good impression or perhaps even an impression of me being in their class. I know i definitely have improved in some ways since Law Sch started. But i've also become more critical of myself, less confident in sch and i guess it is unhealthy?
I just received my prop law assignment grades yesterday - B-. I was told many people din do well. But then again, i've put in a lot of effort into this assignment, then. Then my fren who surf the net during tutorials got a better grade than me. Isn't it frustrating when however hard you work, you simply cannot get pass a certain grade?
I need to work harder.
Sunday, October 16, 2005
i'm addicted to maple story.
for those of you who have no idea what that is, it is an multiple-player RPG game which you play online.
For some reason i cannot d/l the new game client with the new additions to the game. It is disgusting how they take advantage of our addiction. They simply don't do a good job linking the downloads! And my stupid sch connection which usually can download things pretty quickly, chooses to screw up today. I'm left here, waiting for the game client to be done d/ling after 81 hours.
Damn i hate this.
Perhaps i shld consider quiting playing the game altogether. Considering my exams are round the corner
HAHAHA, yes my exams seem to be ancillary to the difficulties in d/lding, you haven't read me wrongly.
81 hours...
for those of you who have no idea what that is, it is an multiple-player RPG game which you play online.
For some reason i cannot d/l the new game client with the new additions to the game. It is disgusting how they take advantage of our addiction. They simply don't do a good job linking the downloads! And my stupid sch connection which usually can download things pretty quickly, chooses to screw up today. I'm left here, waiting for the game client to be done d/ling after 81 hours.
Damn i hate this.
Perhaps i shld consider quiting playing the game altogether. Considering my exams are round the corner
HAHAHA, yes my exams seem to be ancillary to the difficulties in d/lding, you haven't read me wrongly.
81 hours...
Thursday, October 06, 2005
I've just sent an email to the pro-tem team for YJ alumni, one with a pretty frustrated tone (according to my fren). However, i couldn't help it. On one hand i cannot expect everyone to put this as anywhere near a priority, on the other, i can't do this alone. I tot that since we have all pledged our commitment, we shld at least see it through. To establish a functioning ex-co and that's it. But here i am, having problem organising meetings with full attendance of the pro-tem, and getting response from them for event details or suggestions. As much as i try to make things easy for them by emailing them to inform and get feedback, their indifference makes it difficult for progress. How can i expect the greater mass of the members to respond, when the core group cannot get its act together? I really wonder if i should go on or to just f*ck it.
My own friends from YJ are not supportive of the alumni either. I've met up with a couple of friends for movie a few days back, the little time i was with them, i spent it trying to convince them to come back for the tea. I'm beginning to feel like i'm selling the alumni like MLM, trying to make them buy by harassing them. The closest friends i had, or so i thought, i had problem calling them to support me. Personally, i don't want them to think that i'm just looking for them when i have some agenda. I guess i'll have to attribute this to my absence from the group throughout my first year. No excuse. Most of them just took it as i've left the group because of my boyfriend and only looking for them when i break up. I can't blame them for feeling that way thou because it appears so. But i guess when i try to get them together, there isn't much to talk to them about except listen to their army stories. I don't blame them because their lives are just about army right now. However, it is difficult to organise a gathering when most of us are busy with our own lives.
I sometimes question my passion for the alumni.
I spent my most hardworking days in Yj, to be frank, the only thing i learnt is academic things (and largely not from the teachers). But i've learnt about life, really grew up in YJ. I've learnt that sometimes when life takes a nasty turn, it may be for the better. A place where i hated the system and learnt to live with it. A place where i got into trouble with the system but managed to survive it. A place where i've proved my worth to myself. I hate the school, used to.
That is why i want to change it.
Damn
My own friends from YJ are not supportive of the alumni either. I've met up with a couple of friends for movie a few days back, the little time i was with them, i spent it trying to convince them to come back for the tea. I'm beginning to feel like i'm selling the alumni like MLM, trying to make them buy by harassing them. The closest friends i had, or so i thought, i had problem calling them to support me. Personally, i don't want them to think that i'm just looking for them when i have some agenda. I guess i'll have to attribute this to my absence from the group throughout my first year. No excuse. Most of them just took it as i've left the group because of my boyfriend and only looking for them when i break up. I can't blame them for feeling that way thou because it appears so. But i guess when i try to get them together, there isn't much to talk to them about except listen to their army stories. I don't blame them because their lives are just about army right now. However, it is difficult to organise a gathering when most of us are busy with our own lives.
I sometimes question my passion for the alumni.
I spent my most hardworking days in Yj, to be frank, the only thing i learnt is academic things (and largely not from the teachers). But i've learnt about life, really grew up in YJ. I've learnt that sometimes when life takes a nasty turn, it may be for the better. A place where i hated the system and learnt to live with it. A place where i got into trouble with the system but managed to survive it. A place where i've proved my worth to myself. I hate the school, used to.
That is why i want to change it.
Damn
Thursday, September 22, 2005
So sick of being the mediator at home, why do i have to know everything when they don't like to tell each other? Maybe i shldn't be such a busybody at home, just keep to myself, don't ask them about their lives, rush off for work as fast as i can, come home real tired...
I'm not blaming them for doing what they are suppose to do.. but why has they become so absorbed by their own lives, that when they think they're being considerate, they're actually causing much more misunderstanding? They are all very generous, friendly and nice people individually. Why do they have to impose their idea of being considerate on others, such that it becomes more of a burden to each other?
She tries to bring her dad to doctor's appointment all the time because she doesn't want the rest of them to take off from their work. Being a tuition teacher, she doesn't want to burden the rest, hence she changes her schedule as and when to suit the appointments. Also, she is like the mother in the household, she cooks and clean and does all the household chores. Although she doesn't ask for anything back from her siblings, her efforts are almost always seen as "she took it up herself, she will redo it if we help anyway". A person who like to do things her way, her siblings know better than to help which she continues to pack herself with more work. The only problem is that, there is only so much that a person can do, and with all that stress she packed herself with, how does one expect her to smile all the time? Not to mention that she is a serious person by nature.
He has got a 9 to 5 job, as the eldest son in the family, he tries his best to be aware of what is going on. He tried catering to everyone's needs. He is stressed out himself, he is tired of accomodating everyone else. With most of his sisters married, he has to be the balancing force between his sick dad, his tempremental elder sister and his quiet younger brother. To add to this, he has a dreamy girlfriend who believe in living her life to the max while she is young. His sister cannot appreciate his gf as well as him, he doesn't feel the need to address that. As the 'mother' of the household, she cannot understand how can a lady, whom come to her bf house to play computer games and playstation, who always asks his bf to go restaurants and genting be ready to settle down, when she herself doesn't earn much.
His girlfriend thinks that his sister has something against her always, he thinks that one day things will sort themselves out. That everytime, when his sister has a 'black' face, it is because of her.
I say this is a perfect recipe for disaster.
To him:
You've told me before that once u put her into the position, she'll be forced to grow up. So when is she being put into the position? when you guys get married? or is it good enough now that things are more or less settled? I'm not trying to be nosy here, i noe very well that this is non of my business. But i don't want to sit here and watch the disaster unfold itself if i can help it. If today it is some other family showing this, i'll watch it like a drama series. I cannot let this happen to you guys. So just try to hear me out here.
I know it is difficult to come home and face her, you've also told me before. When met with difficulties, the easiest way is to run away from it. There is no way you can run from it, unless you want the problems between ur sister and you to pile up. I guess being the younger one, we have to always take the first step to make the communication. If you think that "she has made herself clear, she is so stubborn she wont change", den i can safely tell u that you are only waiting for disaster to happen.
Her "anal-ness" stems from the fact that she loves u too much and has been taking such good care of you that she don't know if your gf can do the same. She has an image of you in her head, one who shld be taken good care off, that you like to laze around the house, etc. She cannot imagine u, after u come back from work at about 8 plus, to be doing the housework. It is pressurizing to be loved like that, but can u blame her?
The pressure is there because there isn't any communication, there isn't any understanding. Since you have chosen yr gf, and she has chosen you, shldn't you guys try to get your sister's understanding? After all, she is the one who has taken care of you for so long, whether you asked her to do so or not. Frankly, if i can help you tell her that how you guys can work out, i'll be glad to help. But there is only so much i can do. I know it is frustrating to handle both of them, now it is already so evident, what do you think will happen in the future? You also told me before, you make the decisions, you face the consequences. This is one consequence that you have to face. Either you work hard at salvaging the relationship between them, or you lose this sister of yours eventually.
Stayin out wont save you. Your hopes that things will take of themselves will never happen. If all of you cannot let down ur walls, the pretence that things are always fine and beautiful, that you guys are independant individuals - i guess there isn't much me as an outsider can do, not to mention i'm merely a niece...
I'm not blaming them for doing what they are suppose to do.. but why has they become so absorbed by their own lives, that when they think they're being considerate, they're actually causing much more misunderstanding? They are all very generous, friendly and nice people individually. Why do they have to impose their idea of being considerate on others, such that it becomes more of a burden to each other?
She tries to bring her dad to doctor's appointment all the time because she doesn't want the rest of them to take off from their work. Being a tuition teacher, she doesn't want to burden the rest, hence she changes her schedule as and when to suit the appointments. Also, she is like the mother in the household, she cooks and clean and does all the household chores. Although she doesn't ask for anything back from her siblings, her efforts are almost always seen as "she took it up herself, she will redo it if we help anyway". A person who like to do things her way, her siblings know better than to help which she continues to pack herself with more work. The only problem is that, there is only so much that a person can do, and with all that stress she packed herself with, how does one expect her to smile all the time? Not to mention that she is a serious person by nature.
He has got a 9 to 5 job, as the eldest son in the family, he tries his best to be aware of what is going on. He tried catering to everyone's needs. He is stressed out himself, he is tired of accomodating everyone else. With most of his sisters married, he has to be the balancing force between his sick dad, his tempremental elder sister and his quiet younger brother. To add to this, he has a dreamy girlfriend who believe in living her life to the max while she is young. His sister cannot appreciate his gf as well as him, he doesn't feel the need to address that. As the 'mother' of the household, she cannot understand how can a lady, whom come to her bf house to play computer games and playstation, who always asks his bf to go restaurants and genting be ready to settle down, when she herself doesn't earn much.
His girlfriend thinks that his sister has something against her always, he thinks that one day things will sort themselves out. That everytime, when his sister has a 'black' face, it is because of her.
I say this is a perfect recipe for disaster.
To him:
You've told me before that once u put her into the position, she'll be forced to grow up. So when is she being put into the position? when you guys get married? or is it good enough now that things are more or less settled? I'm not trying to be nosy here, i noe very well that this is non of my business. But i don't want to sit here and watch the disaster unfold itself if i can help it. If today it is some other family showing this, i'll watch it like a drama series. I cannot let this happen to you guys. So just try to hear me out here.
I know it is difficult to come home and face her, you've also told me before. When met with difficulties, the easiest way is to run away from it. There is no way you can run from it, unless you want the problems between ur sister and you to pile up. I guess being the younger one, we have to always take the first step to make the communication. If you think that "she has made herself clear, she is so stubborn she wont change", den i can safely tell u that you are only waiting for disaster to happen.
Her "anal-ness" stems from the fact that she loves u too much and has been taking such good care of you that she don't know if your gf can do the same. She has an image of you in her head, one who shld be taken good care off, that you like to laze around the house, etc. She cannot imagine u, after u come back from work at about 8 plus, to be doing the housework. It is pressurizing to be loved like that, but can u blame her?
The pressure is there because there isn't any communication, there isn't any understanding. Since you have chosen yr gf, and she has chosen you, shldn't you guys try to get your sister's understanding? After all, she is the one who has taken care of you for so long, whether you asked her to do so or not. Frankly, if i can help you tell her that how you guys can work out, i'll be glad to help. But there is only so much i can do. I know it is frustrating to handle both of them, now it is already so evident, what do you think will happen in the future? You also told me before, you make the decisions, you face the consequences. This is one consequence that you have to face. Either you work hard at salvaging the relationship between them, or you lose this sister of yours eventually.
Stayin out wont save you. Your hopes that things will take of themselves will never happen. If all of you cannot let down ur walls, the pretence that things are always fine and beautiful, that you guys are independant individuals - i guess there isn't much me as an outsider can do, not to mention i'm merely a niece...
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