EXAM IS OVER!
HOLIDAYS ARE HERE!
*grinz*
Gotta enjoy my one week holidays nicely, slowly...
Shall start with swimming tomorrow :D
Enjoy...
WR
Tuesday, April 24, 2007
First paper ended yesterday: 23rd April
Prepping for my 2nd and last paper: 26th April.
For those whom i've told i'll only end on 2nd May, sorry, i was wrongly informed.. But I'll be done way sooner and in more than one ways :D
After that is partAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PArtY till my internship...
Pls, feel free to call me out!!! BUAhahahahzz
AHhhhhh Cant wait for thurs to come...
TIll THen.
Cheers!
WR
Prepping for my 2nd and last paper: 26th April.
For those whom i've told i'll only end on 2nd May, sorry, i was wrongly informed.. But I'll be done way sooner and in more than one ways :D
After that is partAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PArtY till my internship...
Pls, feel free to call me out!!! BUAhahahahzz
AHhhhhh Cant wait for thurs to come...
TIll THen.
Cheers!
WR
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
回首这十个月所经历的，所看到的，所学到的
没想到到了今天，我发现自己只不过兜了一个大圈。
看到这十个月里的我，是自私的，是任性的， 是自欺欺人的。
all along i tot i had seen it all, seen it through. At the end of the day, the path that i strayed only made me look more childish, more lost than ever, than anyone.
多可笑？
sometimes, all it takes is a line to wake u up...
"爱情的幸福是一个过程，而不是结果。 因为爱情的最终结局都是结束"
This is de very question that i asked. The very question that set me out on the less trodden path to seek the answer. All along i knew love has to end.. and i told myself, if it was going to end anyhow, as long as i am happy, that's all that matter isn't it?
And it turned out it matters. And it matters very much. It is the process that matters, and the process cannot be enjoyable if your happiness is build on someone else's pain, whoever it is. U cant be truly happy, if there is a little bit of conscience left in you. And if there isn't any conscience left, you don't deserve to love.
Many things, so many things just reflect on how selfish, how childish, how spoiled I am.
What was i trying to prove? Really?
Read a lot today. Thought about a lot today. Really tried to push myself as far as i can go today...
I've learned that,
You learn the most when u are in pain, be it physical or emotional. You put yourself through the toil, You see yourself through it... And through that, you learn about yourself, you discover what is within. When you are in pain, you are exposed to the truest nature of yourself. These are the lessons which u will take with you for life...
If all you can think of, is your own suffering, is how other people cannot compare, cannot understand you, den you probably won't go very far in life... Because you'll never learn to handle stress, problems. You'll never realise the value of going through difficult times.
The difficult time will end, though it wont be in your control, but remember, you are in control of what you learn, what you derive out of that rough patch.
And those who try to stop their friends from falling down, they probably haven realise the value of falling down yet...
I've learned that,
a true measure of a man's discipline only shows in the most extreme conditions. If you are already attached and are able to reject someone u usually won't go out with, there is nothing to boast about. It is when you can do the same even if that person is say, Angelina Jolie, then that is discipline, and character.
When you boast that you will not marry for money, can you turn down a marriage proposal that pays u $1m, 10m, 100m?
It just shows that everything is relative. And within that relativity, can you still maintain your principles?
It takes someone who really know what he is doing, who he is to hold on so firmly to his principles. And trust me, not many people can achieve this.
I've learned that,
Only someone who is very sure of himself, can take things in his stride. 拿得起，放得下，坦坦荡荡，淡淡然然. 何必计较功过？何必计较多少？U can only be comfortable being the one behind the scene, when you know very well what you are capable of. And you do not need other people's assurance...
A woman who can give up her career willingly to take care of her family, is noble, not because giving up her work is a sacrifice. But because she knows her responsibility, she knows that she is capable. She is not afraid of walking away because she knows her self worth.
When you aren't sure of yourself, u look for assurances in the all the wrong places...
Looking deep within.
"i'm not lost, just undiscover.
when we're all alone, we're all the same..."
Cheers
WR
没想到到了今天，我发现自己只不过兜了一个大圈。
看到这十个月里的我，是自私的，是任性的， 是自欺欺人的。
all along i tot i had seen it all, seen it through. At the end of the day, the path that i strayed only made me look more childish, more lost than ever, than anyone.
多可笑？
sometimes, all it takes is a line to wake u up...
"爱情的幸福是一个过程，而不是结果。 因为爱情的最终结局都是结束"
This is de very question that i asked. The very question that set me out on the less trodden path to seek the answer. All along i knew love has to end.. and i told myself, if it was going to end anyhow, as long as i am happy, that's all that matter isn't it?
And it turned out it matters. And it matters very much. It is the process that matters, and the process cannot be enjoyable if your happiness is build on someone else's pain, whoever it is. U cant be truly happy, if there is a little bit of conscience left in you. And if there isn't any conscience left, you don't deserve to love.
Many things, so many things just reflect on how selfish, how childish, how spoiled I am.
What was i trying to prove? Really?
Read a lot today. Thought about a lot today. Really tried to push myself as far as i can go today...
I've learned that,
You learn the most when u are in pain, be it physical or emotional. You put yourself through the toil, You see yourself through it... And through that, you learn about yourself, you discover what is within. When you are in pain, you are exposed to the truest nature of yourself. These are the lessons which u will take with you for life...
If all you can think of, is your own suffering, is how other people cannot compare, cannot understand you, den you probably won't go very far in life... Because you'll never learn to handle stress, problems. You'll never realise the value of going through difficult times.
The difficult time will end, though it wont be in your control, but remember, you are in control of what you learn, what you derive out of that rough patch.
And those who try to stop their friends from falling down, they probably haven realise the value of falling down yet...
I've learned that,
a true measure of a man's discipline only shows in the most extreme conditions. If you are already attached and are able to reject someone u usually won't go out with, there is nothing to boast about. It is when you can do the same even if that person is say, Angelina Jolie, then that is discipline, and character.
When you boast that you will not marry for money, can you turn down a marriage proposal that pays u $1m, 10m, 100m?
It just shows that everything is relative. And within that relativity, can you still maintain your principles?
It takes someone who really know what he is doing, who he is to hold on so firmly to his principles. And trust me, not many people can achieve this.
I've learned that,
Only someone who is very sure of himself, can take things in his stride. 拿得起，放得下，坦坦荡荡，淡淡然然. 何必计较功过？何必计较多少？U can only be comfortable being the one behind the scene, when you know very well what you are capable of. And you do not need other people's assurance...
A woman who can give up her career willingly to take care of her family, is noble, not because giving up her work is a sacrifice. But because she knows her responsibility, she knows that she is capable. She is not afraid of walking away because she knows her self worth.
When you aren't sure of yourself, u look for assurances in the all the wrong places...
Looking deep within.
"i'm not lost, just undiscover.
when we're all alone, we're all the same..."
Cheers
WR
Tuesday, April 17, 2007
至:所有有缘人,
作 者：微风轻拂
2006-7-14 12:24:54 
星期五 收藏:
人 世间的事， 有一些真是说不清 ， 而最说不清的就是人的感情， 也许是我的学问太少，也许是我的想法有太多的幼稚, 也许真的是有什么力量在掌控着。 世界之大: 一个人与另一人相遇的可能性是千万分之一， 能成为朋友的可能性大约是亿分之一， 若是成为终生伴侣，其可能性就只有几十亿分之一。 茫茫人 海之中， 为什么会与一个人相遇， 又为什么会一见钟情， 他（她）的一个眼神、 一声轻语、 一个笑脸就让你永远不能忘却， 有人说这是巧合，有人说这 是偶然， 所谓“众里寻她千百度， 蓦然回首， 那人却在灯火阑珊处”， 然而， 从小到大见过那么多的人， 为什么只有这一次是巧合， 巧合的为什么是 他（她）， 而不是别人。 所谓的: 百年修得同船渡, 千年修得共枕眠.
人的感情飘浮不定， 有聚就有散， 有合就有分， 聪明的现代人把“缘分”拆成了“缘”和“分”两个词， 人的感情生活得到了更详 尽更确切的解析， 所谓“有缘有分、有缘无分、无缘有分、无缘无分”。 有缘有分是那些从相遇到相知， 最后和谐相处的人； 有缘无分是说有缘相见， 但 错过机遇的人， 或者是相处一段后而最终分离的人； 无缘有分是虽然一见就烦， 而不得不在一个锅里吃饭的人； 无缘无分大概是从未相见的陌路人。 和“陌生人”生活在同一个屋檐下， 同床共枕而各做着各的梦， 也是很痛苦的， 但在“缘”的捆绑下， 任你百般挣脱也是无可奈何！！！！！
人是随缘来到世上的， 谁是你的父母， 谁是你的兄弟姐妹 ，是先天注定的谁也是无法选择的。 儿时的缘， 是两小无猜的游戏， 是在一起的哭闹和疯笑， 是童真无邪。 同学的缘， 是朝夕相处的情谊， 是纯洁的向往， 是朦胧的碰撞。 朋友的缘， 是无需表白的默契， 是心底的 慰贴， 是高山流水的交融。 “有心栽花花不开，无心插柳柳成荫。”缘来相见， 缘去离散， 一次不经意的邂逅， 又见面了，这个世界真小。 ”“莫非这 是缘份？”人和人讲“缘分”的最多场景是在酒桌上， 特别是酒至半酣的时候， 就开始讲缘分了，“能够碰到一起，真的是缘分啊”， 一下子就拉近了人和人 之间的距离， 最起码也能在非常时刻缓和一下紧张的气氛。
“月有阴晴圆缺，人有悲欢离合，”上苍带给我们的毕竟不只是完美， 还有更多的缺憾，一个重感情的人就难免会伤感， 求完美就难免会有失 落 。 当遇到感情挫折时， 一味的讲道理有时是不管用的， 世上没有“放之四海而皆准”的感情哲理， 一些道理往往适合我， 却不适合你， 这个时候就 不得不撇开道理， 而说缘分了。 两个人的美满结合，那是有缘分，不能结合是没缘分或者是缘分未到， 结婚后又离婚是缘分尽了， 如果不是那么叫真， 又 不想把分分合合的缘由说的那么直白， 这一切， 最好的解释就是“缘分”。 “缘分”扮演了一个亦正亦邪的角色， 如果“有缘”， 要感谢上天的恩赐， 如果“无缘”， 那也是天意所为， “缘分”感将“相遇”或者“未遇”合理化了。 相信“有缘千里来相会，无缘对面不相逢”， 相信“踏破铁鞋 无觅处，得来全不费工夫”， 这种外因式的归咎， 将“缘”看作不可控制的力量。 在爱情与婚姻问题上， 用“缘分”来归结， 大概是迄今为止是最美妙的 解释了。 “缘份”一说可以使男男女女在扑朔迷离的情场上得到一些鼓励和安慰， 医治那些一时无法抚平的痛苦与创伤。 它让人接受人生的一些遗憾， 在感情上不再苛求， 心安理得地接受现实，没有了黯然神伤，心情自然就能平静。在这里，用理智化解不开的难题，一说“缘分”就会迎刃而解。
“缘分”在似有似无的恍惚之间， 显得极具魔力 ， 实在是妙不可言。 人， 就像天上的流云， 时而聚合， 时而分离。 也许，今天朋 友还在一起把酒言欢， 明天就天各一方。古人说，“尽人事而听天命”， 得之我幸， 失之我命。 理智的看， “缘”更像是“天命”在感情上的一个分 支，虽然我不尽信命，但我信缘。
作 者：微风轻拂
缘与份
2006-7-14 12:24:54 星期五 收藏: 人的感情飘浮不定， 有聚就有散， 有合就有分， 聪明的现代人把“缘分”拆成了“缘”和“分”两个词， 人的感情生活得到了更详 尽更确切的解析， 所谓“有缘有分、有缘无分、无缘有分、无缘无分”。 有缘有分是那些从相遇到相知， 最后和谐相处的人； 有缘无分是说有缘相见， 但 错过机遇的人， 或者是相处一段后而最终分离的人； 无缘有分是虽然一见就烦， 而不得不在一个锅里吃饭的人； 无缘无分大概是从未相见的陌路人。 和“陌生人”生活在同一个屋檐下， 同床共枕而各做着各的梦， 也是很痛苦的， 但在“缘”的捆绑下， 任你百般挣脱也是无可奈何！！！！！
人是随缘来到世上的， 谁是你的父母， 谁是你的兄弟姐妹 ，是先天注定的谁也是无法选择的。 儿时的缘， 是两小无猜的游戏， 是在一起的哭闹和疯笑， 是童真无邪。 同学的缘， 是朝夕相处的情谊， 是纯洁的向往， 是朦胧的碰撞。 朋友的缘， 是无需表白的默契， 是心底的 慰贴， 是高山流水的交融。 “有心栽花花不开，无心插柳柳成荫。”缘来相见， 缘去离散， 一次不经意的邂逅， 又见面了，这个世界真小。 ”“莫非这 是缘份？”人和人讲“缘分”的最多场景是在酒桌上， 特别是酒至半酣的时候， 就开始讲缘分了，“能够碰到一起，真的是缘分啊”， 一下子就拉近了人和人 之间的距离， 最起码也能在非常时刻缓和一下紧张的气氛。
“月有阴晴圆缺，人有悲欢离合，”上苍带给我们的毕竟不只是完美， 还有更多的缺憾，一个重感情的人就难免会伤感， 求完美就难免会有失 落 。 当遇到感情挫折时， 一味的讲道理有时是不管用的， 世上没有“放之四海而皆准”的感情哲理， 一些道理往往适合我， 却不适合你， 这个时候就 不得不撇开道理， 而说缘分了。 两个人的美满结合，那是有缘分，不能结合是没缘分或者是缘分未到， 结婚后又离婚是缘分尽了， 如果不是那么叫真， 又 不想把分分合合的缘由说的那么直白， 这一切， 最好的解释就是“缘分”。 “缘分”扮演了一个亦正亦邪的角色， 如果“有缘”， 要感谢上天的恩赐， 如果“无缘”， 那也是天意所为， “缘分”感将“相遇”或者“未遇”合理化了。 相信“有缘千里来相会，无缘对面不相逢”， 相信“踏破铁鞋 无觅处，得来全不费工夫”， 这种外因式的归咎， 将“缘”看作不可控制的力量。 在爱情与婚姻问题上， 用“缘分”来归结， 大概是迄今为止是最美妙的 解释了。 “缘份”一说可以使男男女女在扑朔迷离的情场上得到一些鼓励和安慰， 医治那些一时无法抚平的痛苦与创伤。 它让人接受人生的一些遗憾， 在感情上不再苛求， 心安理得地接受现实，没有了黯然神伤，心情自然就能平静。在这里，用理智化解不开的难题，一说“缘分”就会迎刃而解。
“缘分”在似有似无的恍惚之间， 显得极具魔力 ， 实在是妙不可言。 人， 就像天上的流云， 时而聚合， 时而分离。 也许，今天朋 友还在一起把酒言欢， 明天就天各一方。古人说，“尽人事而听天命”， 得之我幸， 失之我命。 理智的看， “缘”更像是“天命”在感情上的一个分 支，虽然我不尽信命，但我信缘。
Monday, April 16, 2007
Friday, April 13, 2007
Thursday, April 12, 2007
'感觉' 消失后，取而代之的，是经过时间，慢慢建立起来的 '感情'...
Had a lot of afterthoughts after reading the article, promised myself that i'll write an entry about it when I am done with my take home assignments. And here I am..
Pardon me if you find the following entry a little messy, I'm just writing as I go through the article once again..
There isn't a second chance to live your life, therefore you take every step with much care and consideration. This is why life is precious, this is why decisions you make at every junction u come to in life are heavily weighted and considered. The author then questioned, what if relationship is the same? What if you can only love once in your life and there is no turning back, no starting over? Would you still find yourself falling in and out of love so easily?
He has pointed out rightly, that the average age of those getting hitch is decreasing, even primary school students are getting attached. This, in his perspective, is a worrying trend, considering the lack of maturity and independence. How much do they know about relationships, what it means to be together with somebody? The rate of breaking up has therefore, increased tremendously...
However, to me, at different stages of your life, u are involved in a relationships to a different degree. Therefore, a person goes through a number of relationships before finally settling down. There is an introductory stage whereby you are less involved. Even if you were contemplating a future with this person, the success rate of which is small because you have yet to find out what are you looking for in life, in a partner. By success rate, i mean to be able to stay together with that person, and get a HDB flat later in life.
After the introductory stage, a person is more or less able to discern what he wants in life and in a spouse. There in comes the intermediary stage, whereby you look out for someone whom u seriously want to spend your life with. But at this stage, things might still not work out, because of different daily habits when living together, postings overseas etc. You are knowing more and more people as you settle into your career. External factors which you cannot help will affect the relationships.
Then the last stage, where you are pretty settled on what you want and have settled into your career. Things are more in control, you have better big picture, grand scheme of life. You then think about being together with someone really seriously and will be willing to give in when you can, etc.
Hence, i maintain that a person has to go through the baptism of the first two stages, to really appreciate relationship for what it is, his spouse for who she is.
A relationship, at the end of the day, involves two people. As I've mentioned before, eyons ago, anything that has to involve more than one person, only complicate things. Same applies. The complexity of relationships is attributed by the very fact that there are two people in it. Two people with emotions involve only escalate the degree of complexity. There needs to be a certain compatibility between the two in order to make things work. Compatibility as to the thinking, principles, outlook in life, views regarding relationship.
The author asked, why can't people consider relationships carefully before making the decision, and give everything he has after making that decision?
Because when he wanted to give everything, she was not serious. Because when she wanted to love him with all she had, he merely wanted a companion. Many people have experienced such pain because they met the wrong people at the wrong time. There was incompatibility of views towards relationship, and they were hurt. So badly that they told themselves, the next time they will protect themselves. There's no giving everything, because at the end of it all, they'll only be hurt. Hence the hurt passes on.
Can one person curb the cycle? Can one person change the whole playing field?
人终究是感情的动物，感觉会在最不可思议的时候出现．．．
Feelings for new people you meet will definitely come about. The difference lies in how you manage it when you are already with somebody. Some people see it as a challenge to the strength of the relationship, while others simply falter at inducement of excitement and adrenaline.
对，爱是可以重来
但是，对一个人的爱，对一个人的感情，对一个人的记忆，一旦错过了，就再也不能重来了．
Whatever that you had with this special person that you have set ur sight on, can never be replaced by another person.
Love can happen again and again.
The love between you and that person, wont ever happen again.
Therefore, even though one person can have many relationships in his life time, at the end of the day, each relationship is precious. Keeping that in mind, one will be more careful about wanting to end the relationship.
Had a lot of afterthoughts after reading the article, promised myself that i'll write an entry about it when I am done with my take home assignments. And here I am..
Pardon me if you find the following entry a little messy, I'm just writing as I go through the article once again..
There isn't a second chance to live your life, therefore you take every step with much care and consideration. This is why life is precious, this is why decisions you make at every junction u come to in life are heavily weighted and considered. The author then questioned, what if relationship is the same? What if you can only love once in your life and there is no turning back, no starting over? Would you still find yourself falling in and out of love so easily?
He has pointed out rightly, that the average age of those getting hitch is decreasing, even primary school students are getting attached. This, in his perspective, is a worrying trend, considering the lack of maturity and independence. How much do they know about relationships, what it means to be together with somebody? The rate of breaking up has therefore, increased tremendously...
However, to me, at different stages of your life, u are involved in a relationships to a different degree. Therefore, a person goes through a number of relationships before finally settling down. There is an introductory stage whereby you are less involved. Even if you were contemplating a future with this person, the success rate of which is small because you have yet to find out what are you looking for in life, in a partner. By success rate, i mean to be able to stay together with that person, and get a HDB flat later in life.
After the introductory stage, a person is more or less able to discern what he wants in life and in a spouse. There in comes the intermediary stage, whereby you look out for someone whom u seriously want to spend your life with. But at this stage, things might still not work out, because of different daily habits when living together, postings overseas etc. You are knowing more and more people as you settle into your career. External factors which you cannot help will affect the relationships.
Then the last stage, where you are pretty settled on what you want and have settled into your career. Things are more in control, you have better big picture, grand scheme of life. You then think about being together with someone really seriously and will be willing to give in when you can, etc.
Hence, i maintain that a person has to go through the baptism of the first two stages, to really appreciate relationship for what it is, his spouse for who she is.
A relationship, at the end of the day, involves two people. As I've mentioned before, eyons ago, anything that has to involve more than one person, only complicate things. Same applies. The complexity of relationships is attributed by the very fact that there are two people in it. Two people with emotions involve only escalate the degree of complexity. There needs to be a certain compatibility between the two in order to make things work. Compatibility as to the thinking, principles, outlook in life, views regarding relationship.
The author asked, why can't people consider relationships carefully before making the decision, and give everything he has after making that decision?
Because when he wanted to give everything, she was not serious. Because when she wanted to love him with all she had, he merely wanted a companion. Many people have experienced such pain because they met the wrong people at the wrong time. There was incompatibility of views towards relationship, and they were hurt. So badly that they told themselves, the next time they will protect themselves. There's no giving everything, because at the end of it all, they'll only be hurt. Hence the hurt passes on.
Can one person curb the cycle? Can one person change the whole playing field?
人终究是感情的动物，感觉会在最不可思议的时候出现．．．
Feelings for new people you meet will definitely come about. The difference lies in how you manage it when you are already with somebody. Some people see it as a challenge to the strength of the relationship, while others simply falter at inducement of excitement and adrenaline.
对，爱是可以重来
但是，对一个人的爱，对一个人的感情，对一个人的记忆，一旦错过了，就再也不能重来了．
Whatever that you had with this special person that you have set ur sight on, can never be replaced by another person.
Love can happen again and again.
The love between you and that person, wont ever happen again.
Therefore, even though one person can have many relationships in his life time, at the end of the day, each relationship is precious. Keeping that in mind, one will be more careful about wanting to end the relationship.
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（摘至星洲日報／副刊‧文：黃色小叮噹‧2006/12/02）
常常听人說，在愛情的世界里，沒有所謂的對與錯……兩個人能在一起，就是緣分；若不幸分手了，便是無緣。現在的年輕人談戀愛講究感覺。對他們而言，感覺是愛上一個人的主因，沒有感覺的愛情枯燥無味，所以不如早日分手，這樣就不會浪費彼此找尋真愛的時間了。不過，如果把愛情懸掛于真愛以及感覺之間，還真讓人摸不出他們有什麼關聯呢！無論是感覺或愛情，在無情的時間見證之下，都會有所變更。難道所謂的真愛是永遠不變的愛嗎？對一個人的感覺可以永遠保鮮嗎？當感覺一旦變淡，是不是連愛情都沒有了？而經得起考驗的愛就是真愛嗎？怎麼才算經得起考驗呢？不受誘惑、沒有第三者介入的就是經得起考驗的愛情嗎？如果甲和乙條件相同，不過因為跟甲在一起久，沒感情了，反而跟乙在一起就充滿新鮮感，是否可以因為這樣而棄舊換新呢？
很多人分手了都會說是因為性格不合、沒有感覺或其他理由。有時，听起來很明顯的只是借口，明明是因為移情別戀了──在分手後，雙方就迅速地找到了新的另一半。難道分手後就不可以再開始另一段新戀情嗎？可以，不過讓人覺得納悶的是，如果是因為性格不合或沒有感覺而分手，那為何早不分，晚不分，偏偏等到第三者出現了，就分手？當然，如果要解釋，他們的答案可以寫好幾本書。合久必分？真的是這樣嗎？沒有人可以給予正確的答案，有些人即使結婚了還是可以離婚，並且再婚的。難道婚姻真的是愛情的墳墓？是因為結婚後有束縛，不能享受棄舊換新戀情的緣故嗎？
我听過一個故事，雖然不怎麼特別，不過對我來說卻很具有教育意義：
一個擁有幸福家庭的男人，在陰差陽錯的情況之下救了一個天使，所以天使就給了他一個願望。他想了想，對天使說︰“如果生命有take 2，可以重來的話就好了。”天使答應了他，並對他說︰“你就好好享受你的人生吧！等你想要重來的時候，只要心理想我，一切就會恢復原狀了！”
那個人听了雀躍萬分，心想︰“我可以做一切我想要做的事情了。”在回家的路上，他看見了毒販，就經不起誘惑買了一些毒品來嘗試。果然，那是一種飄飄欲仙的感覺。回到家後，他立即和平日嘮叨不停的老婆離婚了，然後娶了一個年輕貌美的新老婆。再來就是儘量地又嫖又賭，放縱自己，讓自己墮落，嘗試一些以前永遠不敢做的事情。因為毒癮和賭癮常常發作，他很快就破產了，新老婆也離他而去，同時，他發現自己得了愛滋病……這時，他的前妻卻默默地回到他的身邊照顧他。他百思不解，開口問道︰“我以前那樣對你，你為什麼還要回來呢？”她默默不語，只流下兩行淚。那個人愧疚萬分，頓時大悟，從夢中醒了過來。只見天使在他身邊說道︰“你現在了解為什麼生命不可以有take 2了吧？生命之所以可貴，是因為生命不能重來啊！所以人們才會懂得珍惜身邊的一切。”
生命沒有take 2，所以大家都盡量小心翼翼地選擇自己想要的生活。因為一旦作了抉擇，就無法再回頭了……因為我們並沒有那麼幸運，遇到可以讓我們重來的天使。那愛情呢？如果愛情也沒有take 2，那大家是否會小心而且更認真地看待愛情呢？隨時代的變遷，談戀愛的年齡已經越來越年輕化，甚至連小學生也開始談戀愛了，在心智以及各方面都尚未成熟、獨立的情況下，分手的幾率當然異常的高。
為什麼會這樣？
因為愛情總是可以重來，如果對第一段感情不滿意，隨時可以結束，然後展開新的一段戀情。只要生命還沒結束，愛情就隨時可以更新。然而，若愛情沒有take 2，一個人一生只能愛一個人，可能就不會有人因感覺變淡而分手了，更不會有第三者的出現。而且也沒有人敢冒冒然地愛，不會有人為了嘗試愛情而愛，更不會有人荒謬到為了吸取更多的愛情經驗而愛。考慮清清楚楚了才愛，愛了就要全心付出，絕不回頭……這樣的想法會不會只是一種夢想？這種願望是不是很難達成？
也許在取笑之餘，大家是否能嘗試想一想，若愛情變得像生命一樣可貴，那這願望是不是就能達成了？雖然在現實世界裡，愛情隨時可以重來，然而真實的狀況是，愛情就像是一張白紙，以往的愛情記錄只要寫下了就怎麼刪也刪不掉，或許自己可以假裝忘記，但卻不可能忘記自己以及對方在愛情記錄中留下的回憶。有誰願意把傷痛的回憶留給自己的愛人呢？無可否認，對一個人感覺的確會隨時間而慢慢消逝，可是感情卻會慢慢被培養起來。之後，兩個人在一起並不只是一種習慣，而是因為感情建立了，彼此再也離不開對方了。雖說這樣的感情多數平淡如水，但細水長流卻綿綿不絕呀！當然，這種感覺，只有用心去愛的人才可以了解與體會了！
（摘至星洲日報／副刊‧文：黃色小叮噹‧2006/12/02）
Wednesday, April 04, 2007
No idea how to start on my assignment. The outline is there, just can't seemed to sit myself down and type it out. I guess i'm having a writer's block, and i probably can blog it off.. Lack of inspiration to blog, even..
Everything happens for a reason. Any incident, any experience, any person that you come across in your life, You can learn something out of any of these, good or bad. Everyday, i look at the things occurring around me, and i just see this theme recurring. You might not realize it right now, but some time later, when something of the same vein occur, you'll see the light.
Some friends have been asking me if I'm fine after reading my blog. All I say is 'what is wrong?' I'm not trying to sound casual, to pretend nothing is happening in my life or act all mysterious about my life. Perhaps certain entries can seem a little emo, but I'm still handling it. I do have my fair share of being at a loss, but I make it a point to walk myself out of it. I may seem to be troubled by many things, but I know when to let go of certain things.
Basically, I really actually have nothing to complain about in my life. My family, albeit big and complex, is generally loving. My friends, vast and diverse, i have a few whom i hold really dear to my heart. My love, undefined, but i have my emotional support here and there. I am really very grateful to each and everyone that has been, is in my life. Really thankful that our paths crossed and eventually if we take on different routes, the memories live on.
The cynism, skeptism is slowly melting away. The anger of losing something that was dear is slowly fizzling out. She told me that it'll take another man's whole hearted love to heal me but i beg to differ. To be able to understand and accept that it happened, that somethings are just not within your control, to understand how things work in life, is the path to recovery. And of cos, much reassurance that ultimately, i'll find the one. It might sound cliche if it came from any other person, but when it came from someone who has been there, done that. From being young and innocent, to really loved and gotten hurt, then playing the field and later, found the right person, he has seen it all. Having had the same doubts that I have now, he has found the answers that I probably need to spend the next few years searching for. The meaning of having a relationship, the objectives of a marriage, the importance of having someone share your success with.
To sit me down, listen to my stories and then walk me through certain things that happened, it is really not easy. Because firstly, there aren't many whom i'll take sermons from. And secondly, it is really time consuming for something that you probably yield nothing 'cept perhaps the satisfaction of guiding a lost sheep. He is a much needed iron hand right now in my life, enough space for me to learn the ropes on my own yet the warnings come early enough for me to back off from the cliff. I can only say: xie la =)
I know when i find my place in life in the later stages, this period will really play a big part in what becomes of me. My outlook, principles all taking shape right now. Make it, or break it.
WR
Everything happens for a reason. Any incident, any experience, any person that you come across in your life, You can learn something out of any of these, good or bad. Everyday, i look at the things occurring around me, and i just see this theme recurring. You might not realize it right now, but some time later, when something of the same vein occur, you'll see the light.
Some friends have been asking me if I'm fine after reading my blog. All I say is 'what is wrong?' I'm not trying to sound casual, to pretend nothing is happening in my life or act all mysterious about my life. Perhaps certain entries can seem a little emo, but I'm still handling it. I do have my fair share of being at a loss, but I make it a point to walk myself out of it. I may seem to be troubled by many things, but I know when to let go of certain things.
Basically, I really actually have nothing to complain about in my life. My family, albeit big and complex, is generally loving. My friends, vast and diverse, i have a few whom i hold really dear to my heart. My love, undefined, but i have my emotional support here and there. I am really very grateful to each and everyone that has been, is in my life. Really thankful that our paths crossed and eventually if we take on different routes, the memories live on.
The cynism, skeptism is slowly melting away. The anger of losing something that was dear is slowly fizzling out. She told me that it'll take another man's whole hearted love to heal me but i beg to differ. To be able to understand and accept that it happened, that somethings are just not within your control, to understand how things work in life, is the path to recovery. And of cos, much reassurance that ultimately, i'll find the one. It might sound cliche if it came from any other person, but when it came from someone who has been there, done that. From being young and innocent, to really loved and gotten hurt, then playing the field and later, found the right person, he has seen it all. Having had the same doubts that I have now, he has found the answers that I probably need to spend the next few years searching for. The meaning of having a relationship, the objectives of a marriage, the importance of having someone share your success with.
To sit me down, listen to my stories and then walk me through certain things that happened, it is really not easy. Because firstly, there aren't many whom i'll take sermons from. And secondly, it is really time consuming for something that you probably yield nothing 'cept perhaps the satisfaction of guiding a lost sheep. He is a much needed iron hand right now in my life, enough space for me to learn the ropes on my own yet the warnings come early enough for me to back off from the cliff. I can only say: xie la =)
I know when i find my place in life in the later stages, this period will really play a big part in what becomes of me. My outlook, principles all taking shape right now. Make it, or break it.
WR
Tuesday, April 03, 2007
清官难断家务事
because it involves emotion.. Involves a person's outlook in life... How you treat your family need to come from within. How much you do, they cannot demand. Nothing can be demarcated clearly, burdens can never be divided equally. There isn't a problem if all the kids are brought up to be selfish or selfless. But things become difficult once some are of each category... Those who give and give, and those that never stop taking, eventually some conflict will arise... and when there are conflicts, they usually cannot be solved because there are just too many elements to one single problem.
At the end of the day, it all boils down to the individual. When you give, don't expect anything in return. Any expectations often turn into disappointment. You tend to expect more from the ones you love the most, and therein lies the danger of disappointment. Therein lies the difference between a mother's love and any other kind of love you can find. Because disappointment can take away those other kinds of love, but never will it deplete your mother's love for you...
However, when you take, remember to be grateful. Remember that they do not have any obligation towards you, even if you are born into the same family. There's affinity, but that's all to it. The more you love them, they more you should feel grateful when they make an effort to do anything for you. Towards family, towards your friends...
When you love, remember not to impose it on the other party. Remember that what you consider as a loving gesture, might be poison to the other party. Remember that, loving that person too much, might be difficult for him/her because he/she cannot reciprocate. Suffocated by the need to repay your love, he/she might choose to runaway from it instead.
Always remember that no problem is too big for a family. That a family is worth going back to because of the support that one finds there. That everyone loves everyone, but they just have different way of showing it.
这里有爱等我回来
because it involves emotion.. Involves a person's outlook in life... How you treat your family need to come from within. How much you do, they cannot demand. Nothing can be demarcated clearly, burdens can never be divided equally. There isn't a problem if all the kids are brought up to be selfish or selfless. But things become difficult once some are of each category... Those who give and give, and those that never stop taking, eventually some conflict will arise... and when there are conflicts, they usually cannot be solved because there are just too many elements to one single problem.
At the end of the day, it all boils down to the individual. When you give, don't expect anything in return. Any expectations often turn into disappointment. You tend to expect more from the ones you love the most, and therein lies the danger of disappointment. Therein lies the difference between a mother's love and any other kind of love you can find. Because disappointment can take away those other kinds of love, but never will it deplete your mother's love for you...
However, when you take, remember to be grateful. Remember that they do not have any obligation towards you, even if you are born into the same family. There's affinity, but that's all to it. The more you love them, they more you should feel grateful when they make an effort to do anything for you. Towards family, towards your friends...
When you love, remember not to impose it on the other party. Remember that what you consider as a loving gesture, might be poison to the other party. Remember that, loving that person too much, might be difficult for him/her because he/she cannot reciprocate. Suffocated by the need to repay your love, he/she might choose to runaway from it instead.
Always remember that no problem is too big for a family. That a family is worth going back to because of the support that one finds there. That everyone loves everyone, but they just have different way of showing it.
这里有爱等我回来
Sunday, April 01, 2007
I think i've found the perfect spot to study outside of my house... At amk central macdonald, wifi, powerpoint, junk food, comfortable seats... Still evaluating the crowd though...
Made my way here at 8 am in the morning for a new tuition assignment that i've taken up only recently. I was warned that he is a problem child, bad attitude, etc, therefore i had my reservations at first.. Perhaps it is only our first session, but he seemed pleasant enough. Contrary to what i've been told, that he isn't really thinking about his future, he has an idea of where he wants to be already. Mayb the adults are just too critical of him to see what he is capable of. On the whole an enjoyable session, where i made my fair share of mistakes and he is pretty sharp to spot where did i go wrong. He'll definitely be a difficult case on his bad days, but we'll see...
My own work is piling up and i actually am taking time to evaluate other people's future :) That's me. Cant take my own things in control and yet i want to meddle with other's affairs. Probably that's why i want to be a teacher so much. Always worrying for the students' future, well-being, etc.
Nice and cozy corner while it drizzles outside... I think i should get back to my paper before the lunch hour starts...
Cheers.
WR
Made my way here at 8 am in the morning for a new tuition assignment that i've taken up only recently. I was warned that he is a problem child, bad attitude, etc, therefore i had my reservations at first.. Perhaps it is only our first session, but he seemed pleasant enough. Contrary to what i've been told, that he isn't really thinking about his future, he has an idea of where he wants to be already. Mayb the adults are just too critical of him to see what he is capable of. On the whole an enjoyable session, where i made my fair share of mistakes and he is pretty sharp to spot where did i go wrong. He'll definitely be a difficult case on his bad days, but we'll see...
My own work is piling up and i actually am taking time to evaluate other people's future :) That's me. Cant take my own things in control and yet i want to meddle with other's affairs. Probably that's why i want to be a teacher so much. Always worrying for the students' future, well-being, etc.
Nice and cozy corner while it drizzles outside... I think i should get back to my paper before the lunch hour starts...
Cheers.
WR
Short post before i go to bed.. Busy day =) went for tuition, read up for my paper, went to meet my frens for a drink... my frens for 4 years. Two guys. I got to know them at Siam supper club, when my sister was working there. It was freaking crowded and i was stuck there, right in between the two seats they were occupying and we started talking.. That was 4 years ago, around this time..
I guess i met them at near the lowest point of their lives... I think i've seen them at the most emo time of their lives. And it was us, 4 years ago, who started using the word 'Emo' for the record...
Now, one of them is engaged, and another is happily attached =)
They really look like their lives are complete, and i'm really very happy for them. The happiness stems from knowing how much they have been through, their past, their pain, the rejections... I ever cried just listening to one of their stories..
On a happier note, i'll always remember the silly times we shared together. The time we sat at joo chiat on a Thursday after ladies night at Zouk, cos we're all dead drunk the night before. They took off and i was having my holidays, we just bum there... How we spent the national day together, watching the big screen at ren ci, and then had dinner at chomp chomp.. How we spent our friday nights at winebar, looking at chicks. Lingerie chick, two left feet chick. The night of 3 blue cars. The countless dressing downs i had to take from them for dating my ex boyfriend. The day they rush down for me when i broke off with him. The countless jokes they cracked about him. The two birthdays they celebrated with me.. How they blamed me for being so young, thereby not being able to go to velvet...
Today damien said "Damn, i saw you through your whole bloody tertiary education. you are actually graduating next year"
And it dawned upon me.. They have been around for so long. And one of them is actually getting married in May. =) It feels like yesterday when i asked them if they'll invite me to their wedding and the things i swore to god, i'd tell their wives about.
Man... how things have changed. How things have become different in the span of 4 years.. How they used to nag at me, for hanging around the two old men so much.. Now the two old men are going through a different phrase already, the little girl no longer exists and no longer can pester them...
My brothers. They'll definitely leave my life at some point or another. Even those around me right now. But ultimately, I'll remember all the memories they left me with. The jokes we shared. The times we have together. The stupid things we did. Whether we keep in contact, doesn't really matter. Because I know that, we've really been there for each other. I saw them through some of the most difficult times of their lives, they did the same. Thereafter, I just wish they'll never hit that same low again, or if they do, someone else will be there for them. =) Because it is a different phrase and it is a different kind of attention that they need...
君子之交- 淡如水
有缘千里来相会,无缘见面不相识
I guess i met them at near the lowest point of their lives... I think i've seen them at the most emo time of their lives. And it was us, 4 years ago, who started using the word 'Emo' for the record...
Now, one of them is engaged, and another is happily attached =)
They really look like their lives are complete, and i'm really very happy for them. The happiness stems from knowing how much they have been through, their past, their pain, the rejections... I ever cried just listening to one of their stories..
On a happier note, i'll always remember the silly times we shared together. The time we sat at joo chiat on a Thursday after ladies night at Zouk, cos we're all dead drunk the night before. They took off and i was having my holidays, we just bum there... How we spent the national day together, watching the big screen at ren ci, and then had dinner at chomp chomp.. How we spent our friday nights at winebar, looking at chicks. Lingerie chick, two left feet chick. The night of 3 blue cars. The countless dressing downs i had to take from them for dating my ex boyfriend. The day they rush down for me when i broke off with him. The countless jokes they cracked about him. The two birthdays they celebrated with me.. How they blamed me for being so young, thereby not being able to go to velvet...
Today damien said "Damn, i saw you through your whole bloody tertiary education. you are actually graduating next year"
And it dawned upon me.. They have been around for so long. And one of them is actually getting married in May. =) It feels like yesterday when i asked them if they'll invite me to their wedding and the things i swore to god, i'd tell their wives about.
Man... how things have changed. How things have become different in the span of 4 years.. How they used to nag at me, for hanging around the two old men so much.. Now the two old men are going through a different phrase already, the little girl no longer exists and no longer can pester them...
My brothers. They'll definitely leave my life at some point or another. Even those around me right now. But ultimately, I'll remember all the memories they left me with. The jokes we shared. The times we have together. The stupid things we did. Whether we keep in contact, doesn't really matter. Because I know that, we've really been there for each other. I saw them through some of the most difficult times of their lives, they did the same. Thereafter, I just wish they'll never hit that same low again, or if they do, someone else will be there for them. =) Because it is a different phrase and it is a different kind of attention that they need...
君子之交- 淡如水
有缘千里来相会,无缘见面不相识
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