家家有本难念的经。。。

Family issues are the most difficult, because there is family history, emotional baggages, financial implications and values of individuals. These are elements that are difficult to negotiate on its own, let alone to have them altogether... Usually, "right" or "wrong" is less clear, or may be secondary/peripheral to the actual issues. As such, there is a chinese saying - "清官难断家务事" - it is impossible for one to judge family matters, even for an upright and clear headed judge. Besides, long family history often makes matters more complicated. Grandparents, uncles, aunties, cousins, reciprocity, gifts, who failed to attend whoever's party, etc, tend to make matters worse. Sadly, many people presume that they can and should interfere with others' businesses, simply on the basis that they are "family" no matter how distant the core families are, causing much unnecessary grief and problems to others. On the flip side, those who are at the receiving end of the "evil treatment" can always turn a deaf ear to the noise. If these people matter, they wouldn't be saying such things, and if they don't, why are you bothered and as a result, hurt the ones who actually matter most, i.e. core family members? Easy to say. Difficult to carry out. I'm glad those who matter to me are above these gossips... :)