Haven been doing much since i stopped interning, didn't even go clubbing at all. I guess it is partly due to the lack of company, well, largely due to... :D But I'm pretty sure i'm not missing out much. How different can it be? If i'm really desperate enough to go alone den all the more i shouldn't make the trip. Because at the end of the day, i'll just be wasting money and feeling even worse :D That much i know :D So i guess until my OLD frens decide to make a trip down, i shall stay off clubbing for a while ..
Experience the life of a semi-retiree for the past week. Wake up late, well fed at home, do my exercises, take medication, meet up with frens for coffee and supper. But the value of such a life style can only be fully appreciated if you have had to work really hard preceding it. then again, isn't this how life is? You need to taste the bitter, to fully appreciate the sweet.. To remember that nothing is to be taken for granted, nothing is a given...
I'll be leaving for bangkok on the 2nd Aug, will be back on 5th Aug, hopefully :D
Nothing much to be updating about since i haven been doing much. Or rather i'm not sure what is worth updating about :D
One of my secondary sch frens just came back from her exchange to UK and we were supposed to meet up for lunch with the rest. In fact, we all are supposed to have a stay-over tonight. Mahjong, pedicure, pancakes.. Sounds enticing :D i should be there.. But lately, i haven been able to bring myself to attend all these gatherings for reasons that i cannot really point a finger at. Somehow or rather, I just feel that they come from a different world. And i don't know how to communicate with them. I guess we were never really that close to begin with. We claimed to have known each other for almost 8 years now, yet personally, I hardly know each of them...
After having thought about what does relationship means to me, I'm starting to wonder what does friendship mean to me? Looking back, so many friends have stepped into and out of my life, people from different walks of life, different ages... Some acquaintances, some have walked me through difficult times.. Some whom i've left behind...
Who can i consider as my frens?
Whom do i wish to have and keep as friends?
To what extend do I go for friends?
Are these question purely answerable thru instincts?
Sunday, July 22, 2007
Had to spend my weekend at home cos i took out two teeth on friday.. Since there was some very minor surgery involved, needed to stay in to recuperate. But it wasn't a big deal, not like i lost a lot of blood, felt giddy etc. All I experience was pain on the first night only. Anyhow had to stay home just to be sure :D
It also gave me a chance to finish the latest Harry Potter - the deathly Hallows, which was sent to my house by Singpost on Saturday morning at 750 exactly. How very efficient, even gave me a wake up call :D So everything was pretty, I rested at home with Harry accompanying me..
Only until now am i getting a little restless.. Thinking of going out but really, no where i want to go :p I have been surfing the net throughout the morning till now. Just finished watching 200 Pounds beauty on crunchyroll.com
Din't expect much from it at first, was just doing random clicking at first. Since i was so bored, i tot watching some comedy might help. At the end of the show i found myself tearing with the actress.
At the end of the day, the show is as much as u wanna see it.
In the midst of the show, these two phrases came into my mind:
骑在白马上的不一定是王子
世界上最可笑的话就是：“我做的这一切都是为了你”。
cant imagine I'll think so much after this show.. hahaha
Cheers!
WR
It also gave me a chance to finish the latest Harry Potter - the deathly Hallows, which was sent to my house by Singpost on Saturday morning at 750 exactly. How very efficient, even gave me a wake up call :D So everything was pretty, I rested at home with Harry accompanying me..
Only until now am i getting a little restless.. Thinking of going out but really, no where i want to go :p I have been surfing the net throughout the morning till now. Just finished watching 200 Pounds beauty on crunchyroll.com
Din't expect much from it at first, was just doing random clicking at first. Since i was so bored, i tot watching some comedy might help. At the end of the show i found myself tearing with the actress.
At the end of the day, the show is as much as u wanna see it.
In the midst of the show, these two phrases came into my mind:
骑在白马上的不一定是王子
世界上最可笑的话就是：“我做的这一切都是为了你”。
cant imagine I'll think so much after this show.. hahaha
Cheers!
WR
Saturday, July 14, 2007
Exactly a month and a day after my last post ;) Busy busy i have been, with my internship and friends.
Finally have the time to sit comfortably at home and update my blog and my frens who have been following this blog because my internship just ended yesterday, 13 July 2007. My 2 and a half months' of hell was finally over at 630pm yesterday.
Difficult as it has been, I guess i shall not publish the details here. Who knows when any one of them in the office might come across my blog and I'd probably be in hot soup for writing certain things. Freedom of speech on the internet still comes at a price, responsibility needs to be exercised.
Anyhow, on the brighter side, I'm very very glad that i did not decide to give up during the first 2 weeks, when I thought i couldn't handle the stress and working life. When it was so tempting to tell myself that there was no need to put myself through that pain, to subject myself to the stress because at the end of the day, i didn't plan to work there. It was so attractive, the idea to quit my internship and tell myself that i'll be able to find a better job elsewhere, or live comfortably with the allowance my parents were providing me with. But boy am i glad that i persevered, thanks to the advices from my family and my brothers.. Thanks to their listening to my bitching did i survive the ordeal. Greatest thanks still goes to my mentor, shu shu, who always can understand my frustration without me saying much. Shu shu, xie la.
The internship made me realised many things about myself on top of learning about the work/life of a lawyer. Made me realised so much about working life, about facing your boss, about making choices between your life and your work, about time management, about juggling work, friends and family. Most importantly, it has taught me that at the most difficult times, even when you feel like giving up, your sense of responsibility will make u go on, there will be a voice telling you that giving up is not the solution to the problems. By taking the easier route out of the situation, I'll merely be running away and will never grow up/ mature/ lvl up if i choose to do that. As tired or painful as it maybe, I have to go through with it, to work hard and stay positive in order to complete the task at hand. Because by saying i don't know how to do, the task will not go away, it will be there until you find a solution or solutions to it. So it is all about looking for the best solution to the issue, when one way is blocked youve got to find another way. That is how different work and studying are. There isn't a correct answer, you have got to find as many ways to solve the issue as possible and then choose the best solution. It is your decision how to pursue the case at the end of the day and sell it to your client and the judge.
Super tired after the 10 weeks, now it is my turn to rest and relax. To sleep as much as i can, to jog and swim.. and nua before school reopens. Another year is starting soon, almost in the next phrase of my life.. I can already feel the change in perspective.
I need to believe in myself, just like how they believed in me. I will reach my potential, my dreams and goals. time to set the targets for my next academic year.
cheers!
wr
Finally have the time to sit comfortably at home and update my blog and my frens who have been following this blog because my internship just ended yesterday, 13 July 2007. My 2 and a half months' of hell was finally over at 630pm yesterday.
Difficult as it has been, I guess i shall not publish the details here. Who knows when any one of them in the office might come across my blog and I'd probably be in hot soup for writing certain things. Freedom of speech on the internet still comes at a price, responsibility needs to be exercised.
Anyhow, on the brighter side, I'm very very glad that i did not decide to give up during the first 2 weeks, when I thought i couldn't handle the stress and working life. When it was so tempting to tell myself that there was no need to put myself through that pain, to subject myself to the stress because at the end of the day, i didn't plan to work there. It was so attractive, the idea to quit my internship and tell myself that i'll be able to find a better job elsewhere, or live comfortably with the allowance my parents were providing me with. But boy am i glad that i persevered, thanks to the advices from my family and my brothers.. Thanks to their listening to my bitching did i survive the ordeal. Greatest thanks still goes to my mentor, shu shu, who always can understand my frustration without me saying much. Shu shu, xie la.
The internship made me realised many things about myself on top of learning about the work/life of a lawyer. Made me realised so much about working life, about facing your boss, about making choices between your life and your work, about time management, about juggling work, friends and family. Most importantly, it has taught me that at the most difficult times, even when you feel like giving up, your sense of responsibility will make u go on, there will be a voice telling you that giving up is not the solution to the problems. By taking the easier route out of the situation, I'll merely be running away and will never grow up/ mature/ lvl up if i choose to do that. As tired or painful as it maybe, I have to go through with it, to work hard and stay positive in order to complete the task at hand. Because by saying i don't know how to do, the task will not go away, it will be there until you find a solution or solutions to it. So it is all about looking for the best solution to the issue, when one way is blocked youve got to find another way. That is how different work and studying are. There isn't a correct answer, you have got to find as many ways to solve the issue as possible and then choose the best solution. It is your decision how to pursue the case at the end of the day and sell it to your client and the judge.
Super tired after the 10 weeks, now it is my turn to rest and relax. To sleep as much as i can, to jog and swim.. and nua before school reopens. Another year is starting soon, almost in the next phrase of my life.. I can already feel the change in perspective.
I need to believe in myself, just like how they believed in me. I will reach my potential, my dreams and goals. time to set the targets for my next academic year.
cheers!
wr
Wednesday, June 13, 2007
Real Girl Mutya Buena lyrics
If I had one chance toIn my life again
I wouldn't make no changes
Now or way back when (yeah)
And if everything turns out
The way I hope it goes
But I cant wait to find out
What it is that God knows
But I don't wanna think about
What's gonna come around for me
I'll just take it day by day
'Cause it's the only way
To be the best that I can be
I never pretend to be something I'm not
You get what you see, when you see what I've got
We live in the real world, I'm just a real girl
I know exactly where I stand
And all I can do is be true to myself
I don't need permission from nobody else
'Cause this is the real world, I'm not a little girl
I know exactly who I am
And nothing's ever perfect
There's no guarantee
And if I knew the answers
It would put my mind at ease (no)
So I'll just keep on going
The way I've gone so far
And maybe I'll end up
Tryin' to catch a fallin star (yeah)
But I don't wanna think about
What's gonna come around for me
I'll just take it day by day
'Cause it's the only way
To be the best that I can be
I never pretend to be something I'm not
You get what you see, when you see what I've got
We live in the real world, I'm just a real girl
I know exactly where I stand
And all I can do is be true to myself
I don't need permission from nobody else
'Cause this is the real world, I'm not a little girl
I know exactly who I am
Baby this is who I am
Don't need you to understand
'Cause everything is right where it should be
It wont be long til you know about me,
'Cause I don't give a...
Even when I'm out of love
'Cause everythings just how it should be
And it wont be long till you know about me
I never pretend to be something I'm not
You get what you see, when you see what I've got
We live in the real world, I'm just a real girl
I know exactly where I stand
And all I can do is be true to myself
I don't need permission from nobody else
'Cause this is the real world, I'm not a little girl
I know exactly who I am
I never pretend to be something I'm not
You get what you see, when you see what I've got
We live in the real world, I'm just a real girl
I know exactly where I stand
And all I can do is be true to myself
I don't need permission from nobody else
'Cause this is the real world, I'm not a little girl
I know exactly who I am
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
another year has gone by.. What have i achieved over the last year?
I guess it has been a good year for me. Considering the things that i have went through, the people that i've met.. This has probably been the most i've gotten out of my 22 years of life.. I remember more happy times than sad. It definitely hasn't been easy, but it is the ability to learn how to deal with the difficulties... I recall more time being spent with myself, searching for me.. Knowing more about myself than others... Knowing what i want to do, what i wish to achieve and eventually getting my goals..
On the special day, i pondered over some decisions i've made in my life.. and looking at the consequences of which currently unfolding before my eyes.. I realised I am more able to live with my decisions because they are deliberated. instead of me being push off the edge of the cliff..
Another year has gone by. Next year this time, it'll mark another phrase in my life..
You will only realise the value of something once you lose it..
wr
I guess it has been a good year for me. Considering the things that i have went through, the people that i've met.. This has probably been the most i've gotten out of my 22 years of life.. I remember more happy times than sad. It definitely hasn't been easy, but it is the ability to learn how to deal with the difficulties... I recall more time being spent with myself, searching for me.. Knowing more about myself than others... Knowing what i want to do, what i wish to achieve and eventually getting my goals..
On the special day, i pondered over some decisions i've made in my life.. and looking at the consequences of which currently unfolding before my eyes.. I realised I am more able to live with my decisions because they are deliberated. instead of me being push off the edge of the cliff..
Another year has gone by. Next year this time, it'll mark another phrase in my life..
You will only realise the value of something once you lose it..
wr
Saturday, May 26, 2007
=)
I've gotten my results for this semester.. Pretty satisfied with them..
Pardon me for my very.. irregular entries.. Really tired after work ...
Wouldn't want to update you guys on the .. hellhole :D
LIFE GOES ON!!!
It was a really eventful week... Need to jot it down in my diary..
Sigh sorry, no time and energy to write chim entries here for the time being..
Apologise for the brainlessness :D
Cheers!
WR
I've gotten my results for this semester.. Pretty satisfied with them..
Pardon me for my very.. irregular entries.. Really tired after work ...
Wouldn't want to update you guys on the .. hellhole :D
LIFE GOES ON!!!
It was a really eventful week... Need to jot it down in my diary..
Sigh sorry, no time and energy to write chim entries here for the time being..
Apologise for the brainlessness :D
Cheers!
WR
Monday, May 07, 2007
First day of internship at M & A Law Corporation
I drafted a client letter from 10 am to 4 pm. Memories of legal writing came flashing back. But none of them helped. Guessed I'm considered lucky to have real things to do at such a small law firm and my boss was really patient with me. He took the time to explain why i had to include certain things and what some acronyms meant. Things that they don't teach in sch! But this is the whole point of going for an internship, isn't it? I just hope that today's luck will continue for the rest of my internship :D
Well, other that that i don't have much to report, unless i go into the nitty gritty of how i tried to mix around, get oriented in Suntec, MSN till 615pm..
I'm already planning my jogging schedule in the morning.. I realised i can never make it back in time to jog in the evening by myself.
And the whole time i was at work, all the filled my mind were bimbotic thoughts about shopping for shoes, clothes, etc.. Argh. welcome to working woman's world.
Therefore, pretty obviously i don't have much to say here intellectually.
Moreover, after a day of tinkering about how to say ONE thing in 10 different ways, now i just want to buy a book to read :D
Maybe two.. Time to drop by Borders/Kino!!!!
hahaha shall do a book review here one of these days..
Going to sleep now.
Cheers!!!
I drafted a client letter from 10 am to 4 pm. Memories of legal writing came flashing back. But none of them helped. Guessed I'm considered lucky to have real things to do at such a small law firm and my boss was really patient with me. He took the time to explain why i had to include certain things and what some acronyms meant. Things that they don't teach in sch! But this is the whole point of going for an internship, isn't it? I just hope that today's luck will continue for the rest of my internship :D
Well, other that that i don't have much to report, unless i go into the nitty gritty of how i tried to mix around, get oriented in Suntec, MSN till 615pm..
I'm already planning my jogging schedule in the morning.. I realised i can never make it back in time to jog in the evening by myself.
And the whole time i was at work, all the filled my mind were bimbotic thoughts about shopping for shoes, clothes, etc.. Argh. welcome to working woman's world.
Therefore, pretty obviously i don't have much to say here intellectually.
Moreover, after a day of tinkering about how to say ONE thing in 10 different ways, now i just want to buy a book to read :D
Maybe two.. Time to drop by Borders/Kino!!!!
hahaha shall do a book review here one of these days..
Going to sleep now.
Cheers!!!
Thursday, May 03, 2007
as usual, once the holidays are here, i go MIA in my blog as well.
Haven been online for a good long while.. Running around like a mad woman..
Nothing much has been happening for me... CEPT FOR TODAY!!!!!
I BOUGHT THIS SEASON"S LIVERPOOL JERSEY TODAY!!!!!!!!!!
whahaha i shall post a picture of it on my blog later :D
HAHAHA u all shld see the stupid grin on my face when i got it.
Boy's cut, medium. Refused to get the ladies cut! Ugly...
wahhahaha sweet dreams tonight!
Very very random post... Not much thoughts lately, just trying to enjoy my one week of holidays before my internship starts. I guess once it starts i'll have more time to blog about it at night :D
Anyhow, gonna be a busy weekend since there'll be big event in my family.. my uncle's wedding over the weekend.. So most prob i'll only be able to blog next week :D
Cheers!!
WR
Haven been online for a good long while.. Running around like a mad woman..
Nothing much has been happening for me... CEPT FOR TODAY!!!!!
I BOUGHT THIS SEASON"S LIVERPOOL JERSEY TODAY!!!!!!!!!!
whahaha i shall post a picture of it on my blog later :D
HAHAHA u all shld see the stupid grin on my face when i got it.
Boy's cut, medium. Refused to get the ladies cut! Ugly...
wahhahaha sweet dreams tonight!
Very very random post... Not much thoughts lately, just trying to enjoy my one week of holidays before my internship starts. I guess once it starts i'll have more time to blog about it at night :D
Anyhow, gonna be a busy weekend since there'll be big event in my family.. my uncle's wedding over the weekend.. So most prob i'll only be able to blog next week :D
Cheers!!
WR
Friday, April 27, 2007
Tuesday, April 24, 2007
First paper ended yesterday: 23rd April
Prepping for my 2nd and last paper: 26th April.
For those whom i've told i'll only end on 2nd May, sorry, i was wrongly informed.. But I'll be done way sooner and in more than one ways :D
After that is partAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PArtY till my internship...
Pls, feel free to call me out!!! BUAhahahahzz
AHhhhhh Cant wait for thurs to come...
TIll THen.
Cheers!
WR
Prepping for my 2nd and last paper: 26th April.
For those whom i've told i'll only end on 2nd May, sorry, i was wrongly informed.. But I'll be done way sooner and in more than one ways :D
After that is partAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PArtY till my internship...
Pls, feel free to call me out!!! BUAhahahahzz
AHhhhhh Cant wait for thurs to come...
TIll THen.
Cheers!
WR
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
回首这十个月所经历的，所看到的，所学到的
没想到到了今天，我发现自己只不过兜了一个大圈。
看到这十个月里的我，是自私的，是任性的， 是自欺欺人的。
all along i tot i had seen it all, seen it through. At the end of the day, the path that i strayed only made me look more childish, more lost than ever, than anyone.
多可笑？
sometimes, all it takes is a line to wake u up...
"爱情的幸福是一个过程，而不是结果。 因为爱情的最终结局都是结束"
This is de very question that i asked. The very question that set me out on the less trodden path to seek the answer. All along i knew love has to end.. and i told myself, if it was going to end anyhow, as long as i am happy, that's all that matter isn't it?
And it turned out it matters. And it matters very much. It is the process that matters, and the process cannot be enjoyable if your happiness is build on someone else's pain, whoever it is. U cant be truly happy, if there is a little bit of conscience left in you. And if there isn't any conscience left, you don't deserve to love.
Many things, so many things just reflect on how selfish, how childish, how spoiled I am.
What was i trying to prove? Really?
Read a lot today. Thought about a lot today. Really tried to push myself as far as i can go today...
I've learned that,
You learn the most when u are in pain, be it physical or emotional. You put yourself through the toil, You see yourself through it... And through that, you learn about yourself, you discover what is within. When you are in pain, you are exposed to the truest nature of yourself. These are the lessons which u will take with you for life...
If all you can think of, is your own suffering, is how other people cannot compare, cannot understand you, den you probably won't go very far in life... Because you'll never learn to handle stress, problems. You'll never realise the value of going through difficult times.
The difficult time will end, though it wont be in your control, but remember, you are in control of what you learn, what you derive out of that rough patch.
And those who try to stop their friends from falling down, they probably haven realise the value of falling down yet...
I've learned that,
a true measure of a man's discipline only shows in the most extreme conditions. If you are already attached and are able to reject someone u usually won't go out with, there is nothing to boast about. It is when you can do the same even if that person is say, Angelina Jolie, then that is discipline, and character.
When you boast that you will not marry for money, can you turn down a marriage proposal that pays u $1m, 10m, 100m?
It just shows that everything is relative. And within that relativity, can you still maintain your principles?
It takes someone who really know what he is doing, who he is to hold on so firmly to his principles. And trust me, not many people can achieve this.
I've learned that,
Only someone who is very sure of himself, can take things in his stride. 拿得起，放得下，坦坦荡荡，淡淡然然. 何必计较功过？何必计较多少？U can only be comfortable being the one behind the scene, when you know very well what you are capable of. And you do not need other people's assurance...
A woman who can give up her career willingly to take care of her family, is noble, not because giving up her work is a sacrifice. But because she knows her responsibility, she knows that she is capable. She is not afraid of walking away because she knows her self worth.
When you aren't sure of yourself, u look for assurances in the all the wrong places...
Looking deep within.
"i'm not lost, just undiscover.
when we're all alone, we're all the same..."
Cheers
WR
没想到到了今天，我发现自己只不过兜了一个大圈。
看到这十个月里的我，是自私的，是任性的， 是自欺欺人的。
all along i tot i had seen it all, seen it through. At the end of the day, the path that i strayed only made me look more childish, more lost than ever, than anyone.
多可笑？
sometimes, all it takes is a line to wake u up...
"爱情的幸福是一个过程，而不是结果。 因为爱情的最终结局都是结束"
This is de very question that i asked. The very question that set me out on the less trodden path to seek the answer. All along i knew love has to end.. and i told myself, if it was going to end anyhow, as long as i am happy, that's all that matter isn't it?
And it turned out it matters. And it matters very much. It is the process that matters, and the process cannot be enjoyable if your happiness is build on someone else's pain, whoever it is. U cant be truly happy, if there is a little bit of conscience left in you. And if there isn't any conscience left, you don't deserve to love.
Many things, so many things just reflect on how selfish, how childish, how spoiled I am.
What was i trying to prove? Really?
Read a lot today. Thought about a lot today. Really tried to push myself as far as i can go today...
I've learned that,
You learn the most when u are in pain, be it physical or emotional. You put yourself through the toil, You see yourself through it... And through that, you learn about yourself, you discover what is within. When you are in pain, you are exposed to the truest nature of yourself. These are the lessons which u will take with you for life...
If all you can think of, is your own suffering, is how other people cannot compare, cannot understand you, den you probably won't go very far in life... Because you'll never learn to handle stress, problems. You'll never realise the value of going through difficult times.
The difficult time will end, though it wont be in your control, but remember, you are in control of what you learn, what you derive out of that rough patch.
And those who try to stop their friends from falling down, they probably haven realise the value of falling down yet...
I've learned that,
a true measure of a man's discipline only shows in the most extreme conditions. If you are already attached and are able to reject someone u usually won't go out with, there is nothing to boast about. It is when you can do the same even if that person is say, Angelina Jolie, then that is discipline, and character.
When you boast that you will not marry for money, can you turn down a marriage proposal that pays u $1m, 10m, 100m?
It just shows that everything is relative. And within that relativity, can you still maintain your principles?
It takes someone who really know what he is doing, who he is to hold on so firmly to his principles. And trust me, not many people can achieve this.
I've learned that,
Only someone who is very sure of himself, can take things in his stride. 拿得起，放得下，坦坦荡荡，淡淡然然. 何必计较功过？何必计较多少？U can only be comfortable being the one behind the scene, when you know very well what you are capable of. And you do not need other people's assurance...
A woman who can give up her career willingly to take care of her family, is noble, not because giving up her work is a sacrifice. But because she knows her responsibility, she knows that she is capable. She is not afraid of walking away because she knows her self worth.
When you aren't sure of yourself, u look for assurances in the all the wrong places...
Looking deep within.
"i'm not lost, just undiscover.
when we're all alone, we're all the same..."
Cheers
WR
Tuesday, April 17, 2007
至:所有有缘人,
作 者：微风轻拂
2006-7-14 12:24:54 
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人 世间的事， 有一些真是说不清 ， 而最说不清的就是人的感情， 也许是我的学问太少，也许是我的想法有太多的幼稚, 也许真的是有什么力量在掌控着。 世界之大: 一个人与另一人相遇的可能性是千万分之一， 能成为朋友的可能性大约是亿分之一， 若是成为终生伴侣，其可能性就只有几十亿分之一。 茫茫人 海之中， 为什么会与一个人相遇， 又为什么会一见钟情， 他（她）的一个眼神、 一声轻语、 一个笑脸就让你永远不能忘却， 有人说这是巧合，有人说这 是偶然， 所谓“众里寻她千百度， 蓦然回首， 那人却在灯火阑珊处”， 然而， 从小到大见过那么多的人， 为什么只有这一次是巧合， 巧合的为什么是 他（她）， 而不是别人。 所谓的: 百年修得同船渡, 千年修得共枕眠.
人的感情飘浮不定， 有聚就有散， 有合就有分， 聪明的现代人把“缘分”拆成了“缘”和“分”两个词， 人的感情生活得到了更详 尽更确切的解析， 所谓“有缘有分、有缘无分、无缘有分、无缘无分”。 有缘有分是那些从相遇到相知， 最后和谐相处的人； 有缘无分是说有缘相见， 但 错过机遇的人， 或者是相处一段后而最终分离的人； 无缘有分是虽然一见就烦， 而不得不在一个锅里吃饭的人； 无缘无分大概是从未相见的陌路人。 和“陌生人”生活在同一个屋檐下， 同床共枕而各做着各的梦， 也是很痛苦的， 但在“缘”的捆绑下， 任你百般挣脱也是无可奈何！！！！！
人是随缘来到世上的， 谁是你的父母， 谁是你的兄弟姐妹 ，是先天注定的谁也是无法选择的。 儿时的缘， 是两小无猜的游戏， 是在一起的哭闹和疯笑， 是童真无邪。 同学的缘， 是朝夕相处的情谊， 是纯洁的向往， 是朦胧的碰撞。 朋友的缘， 是无需表白的默契， 是心底的 慰贴， 是高山流水的交融。 “有心栽花花不开，无心插柳柳成荫。”缘来相见， 缘去离散， 一次不经意的邂逅， 又见面了，这个世界真小。 ”“莫非这 是缘份？”人和人讲“缘分”的最多场景是在酒桌上， 特别是酒至半酣的时候， 就开始讲缘分了，“能够碰到一起，真的是缘分啊”， 一下子就拉近了人和人 之间的距离， 最起码也能在非常时刻缓和一下紧张的气氛。
“月有阴晴圆缺，人有悲欢离合，”上苍带给我们的毕竟不只是完美， 还有更多的缺憾，一个重感情的人就难免会伤感， 求完美就难免会有失 落 。 当遇到感情挫折时， 一味的讲道理有时是不管用的， 世上没有“放之四海而皆准”的感情哲理， 一些道理往往适合我， 却不适合你， 这个时候就 不得不撇开道理， 而说缘分了。 两个人的美满结合，那是有缘分，不能结合是没缘分或者是缘分未到， 结婚后又离婚是缘分尽了， 如果不是那么叫真， 又 不想把分分合合的缘由说的那么直白， 这一切， 最好的解释就是“缘分”。 “缘分”扮演了一个亦正亦邪的角色， 如果“有缘”， 要感谢上天的恩赐， 如果“无缘”， 那也是天意所为， “缘分”感将“相遇”或者“未遇”合理化了。 相信“有缘千里来相会，无缘对面不相逢”， 相信“踏破铁鞋 无觅处，得来全不费工夫”， 这种外因式的归咎， 将“缘”看作不可控制的力量。 在爱情与婚姻问题上， 用“缘分”来归结， 大概是迄今为止是最美妙的 解释了。 “缘份”一说可以使男男女女在扑朔迷离的情场上得到一些鼓励和安慰， 医治那些一时无法抚平的痛苦与创伤。 它让人接受人生的一些遗憾， 在感情上不再苛求， 心安理得地接受现实，没有了黯然神伤，心情自然就能平静。在这里，用理智化解不开的难题，一说“缘分”就会迎刃而解。
“缘分”在似有似无的恍惚之间， 显得极具魔力 ， 实在是妙不可言。 人， 就像天上的流云， 时而聚合， 时而分离。 也许，今天朋 友还在一起把酒言欢， 明天就天各一方。古人说，“尽人事而听天命”， 得之我幸， 失之我命。 理智的看， “缘”更像是“天命”在感情上的一个分 支，虽然我不尽信命，但我信缘。
作 者：微风轻拂
缘与份
2006-7-14 12:24:54 星期五 收藏: 人的感情飘浮不定， 有聚就有散， 有合就有分， 聪明的现代人把“缘分”拆成了“缘”和“分”两个词， 人的感情生活得到了更详 尽更确切的解析， 所谓“有缘有分、有缘无分、无缘有分、无缘无分”。 有缘有分是那些从相遇到相知， 最后和谐相处的人； 有缘无分是说有缘相见， 但 错过机遇的人， 或者是相处一段后而最终分离的人； 无缘有分是虽然一见就烦， 而不得不在一个锅里吃饭的人； 无缘无分大概是从未相见的陌路人。 和“陌生人”生活在同一个屋檐下， 同床共枕而各做着各的梦， 也是很痛苦的， 但在“缘”的捆绑下， 任你百般挣脱也是无可奈何！！！！！
人是随缘来到世上的， 谁是你的父母， 谁是你的兄弟姐妹 ，是先天注定的谁也是无法选择的。 儿时的缘， 是两小无猜的游戏， 是在一起的哭闹和疯笑， 是童真无邪。 同学的缘， 是朝夕相处的情谊， 是纯洁的向往， 是朦胧的碰撞。 朋友的缘， 是无需表白的默契， 是心底的 慰贴， 是高山流水的交融。 “有心栽花花不开，无心插柳柳成荫。”缘来相见， 缘去离散， 一次不经意的邂逅， 又见面了，这个世界真小。 ”“莫非这 是缘份？”人和人讲“缘分”的最多场景是在酒桌上， 特别是酒至半酣的时候， 就开始讲缘分了，“能够碰到一起，真的是缘分啊”， 一下子就拉近了人和人 之间的距离， 最起码也能在非常时刻缓和一下紧张的气氛。
“月有阴晴圆缺，人有悲欢离合，”上苍带给我们的毕竟不只是完美， 还有更多的缺憾，一个重感情的人就难免会伤感， 求完美就难免会有失 落 。 当遇到感情挫折时， 一味的讲道理有时是不管用的， 世上没有“放之四海而皆准”的感情哲理， 一些道理往往适合我， 却不适合你， 这个时候就 不得不撇开道理， 而说缘分了。 两个人的美满结合，那是有缘分，不能结合是没缘分或者是缘分未到， 结婚后又离婚是缘分尽了， 如果不是那么叫真， 又 不想把分分合合的缘由说的那么直白， 这一切， 最好的解释就是“缘分”。 “缘分”扮演了一个亦正亦邪的角色， 如果“有缘”， 要感谢上天的恩赐， 如果“无缘”， 那也是天意所为， “缘分”感将“相遇”或者“未遇”合理化了。 相信“有缘千里来相会，无缘对面不相逢”， 相信“踏破铁鞋 无觅处，得来全不费工夫”， 这种外因式的归咎， 将“缘”看作不可控制的力量。 在爱情与婚姻问题上， 用“缘分”来归结， 大概是迄今为止是最美妙的 解释了。 “缘份”一说可以使男男女女在扑朔迷离的情场上得到一些鼓励和安慰， 医治那些一时无法抚平的痛苦与创伤。 它让人接受人生的一些遗憾， 在感情上不再苛求， 心安理得地接受现实，没有了黯然神伤，心情自然就能平静。在这里，用理智化解不开的难题，一说“缘分”就会迎刃而解。
“缘分”在似有似无的恍惚之间， 显得极具魔力 ， 实在是妙不可言。 人， 就像天上的流云， 时而聚合， 时而分离。 也许，今天朋 友还在一起把酒言欢， 明天就天各一方。古人说，“尽人事而听天命”， 得之我幸， 失之我命。 理智的看， “缘”更像是“天命”在感情上的一个分 支，虽然我不尽信命，但我信缘。
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'感觉' 消失后，取而代之的，是经过时间，慢慢建立起来的 '感情'...
Had a lot of afterthoughts after reading the article, promised myself that i'll write an entry about it when I am done with my take home assignments. And here I am..
Pardon me if you find the following entry a little messy, I'm just writing as I go through the article once again..
There isn't a second chance to live your life, therefore you take every step with much care and consideration. This is why life is precious, this is why decisions you make at every junction u come to in life are heavily weighted and considered. The author then questioned, what if relationship is the same? What if you can only love once in your life and there is no turning back, no starting over? Would you still find yourself falling in and out of love so easily?
He has pointed out rightly, that the average age of those getting hitch is decreasing, even primary school students are getting attached. This, in his perspective, is a worrying trend, considering the lack of maturity and independence. How much do they know about relationships, what it means to be together with somebody? The rate of breaking up has therefore, increased tremendously...
However, to me, at different stages of your life, u are involved in a relationships to a different degree. Therefore, a person goes through a number of relationships before finally settling down. There is an introductory stage whereby you are less involved. Even if you were contemplating a future with this person, the success rate of which is small because you have yet to find out what are you looking for in life, in a partner. By success rate, i mean to be able to stay together with that person, and get a HDB flat later in life.
After the introductory stage, a person is more or less able to discern what he wants in life and in a spouse. There in comes the intermediary stage, whereby you look out for someone whom u seriously want to spend your life with. But at this stage, things might still not work out, because of different daily habits when living together, postings overseas etc. You are knowing more and more people as you settle into your career. External factors which you cannot help will affect the relationships.
Then the last stage, where you are pretty settled on what you want and have settled into your career. Things are more in control, you have better big picture, grand scheme of life. You then think about being together with someone really seriously and will be willing to give in when you can, etc.
Hence, i maintain that a person has to go through the baptism of the first two stages, to really appreciate relationship for what it is, his spouse for who she is.
A relationship, at the end of the day, involves two people. As I've mentioned before, eyons ago, anything that has to involve more than one person, only complicate things. Same applies. The complexity of relationships is attributed by the very fact that there are two people in it. Two people with emotions involve only escalate the degree of complexity. There needs to be a certain compatibility between the two in order to make things work. Compatibility as to the thinking, principles, outlook in life, views regarding relationship.
The author asked, why can't people consider relationships carefully before making the decision, and give everything he has after making that decision?
Because when he wanted to give everything, she was not serious. Because when she wanted to love him with all she had, he merely wanted a companion. Many people have experienced such pain because they met the wrong people at the wrong time. There was incompatibility of views towards relationship, and they were hurt. So badly that they told themselves, the next time they will protect themselves. There's no giving everything, because at the end of it all, they'll only be hurt. Hence the hurt passes on.
Can one person curb the cycle? Can one person change the whole playing field?
人终究是感情的动物，感觉会在最不可思议的时候出现．．．
Feelings for new people you meet will definitely come about. The difference lies in how you manage it when you are already with somebody. Some people see it as a challenge to the strength of the relationship, while others simply falter at inducement of excitement and adrenaline.
对，爱是可以重来
但是，对一个人的爱，对一个人的感情，对一个人的记忆，一旦错过了，就再也不能重来了．
Whatever that you had with this special person that you have set ur sight on, can never be replaced by another person.
Love can happen again and again.
The love between you and that person, wont ever happen again.
Therefore, even though one person can have many relationships in his life time, at the end of the day, each relationship is precious. Keeping that in mind, one will be more careful about wanting to end the relationship.
Had a lot of afterthoughts after reading the article, promised myself that i'll write an entry about it when I am done with my take home assignments. And here I am..
Pardon me if you find the following entry a little messy, I'm just writing as I go through the article once again..
There isn't a second chance to live your life, therefore you take every step with much care and consideration. This is why life is precious, this is why decisions you make at every junction u come to in life are heavily weighted and considered. The author then questioned, what if relationship is the same? What if you can only love once in your life and there is no turning back, no starting over? Would you still find yourself falling in and out of love so easily?
He has pointed out rightly, that the average age of those getting hitch is decreasing, even primary school students are getting attached. This, in his perspective, is a worrying trend, considering the lack of maturity and independence. How much do they know about relationships, what it means to be together with somebody? The rate of breaking up has therefore, increased tremendously...
However, to me, at different stages of your life, u are involved in a relationships to a different degree. Therefore, a person goes through a number of relationships before finally settling down. There is an introductory stage whereby you are less involved. Even if you were contemplating a future with this person, the success rate of which is small because you have yet to find out what are you looking for in life, in a partner. By success rate, i mean to be able to stay together with that person, and get a HDB flat later in life.
After the introductory stage, a person is more or less able to discern what he wants in life and in a spouse. There in comes the intermediary stage, whereby you look out for someone whom u seriously want to spend your life with. But at this stage, things might still not work out, because of different daily habits when living together, postings overseas etc. You are knowing more and more people as you settle into your career. External factors which you cannot help will affect the relationships.
Then the last stage, where you are pretty settled on what you want and have settled into your career. Things are more in control, you have better big picture, grand scheme of life. You then think about being together with someone really seriously and will be willing to give in when you can, etc.
Hence, i maintain that a person has to go through the baptism of the first two stages, to really appreciate relationship for what it is, his spouse for who she is.
A relationship, at the end of the day, involves two people. As I've mentioned before, eyons ago, anything that has to involve more than one person, only complicate things. Same applies. The complexity of relationships is attributed by the very fact that there are two people in it. Two people with emotions involve only escalate the degree of complexity. There needs to be a certain compatibility between the two in order to make things work. Compatibility as to the thinking, principles, outlook in life, views regarding relationship.
The author asked, why can't people consider relationships carefully before making the decision, and give everything he has after making that decision?
Because when he wanted to give everything, she was not serious. Because when she wanted to love him with all she had, he merely wanted a companion. Many people have experienced such pain because they met the wrong people at the wrong time. There was incompatibility of views towards relationship, and they were hurt. So badly that they told themselves, the next time they will protect themselves. There's no giving everything, because at the end of it all, they'll only be hurt. Hence the hurt passes on.
Can one person curb the cycle? Can one person change the whole playing field?
人终究是感情的动物，感觉会在最不可思议的时候出现．．．
Feelings for new people you meet will definitely come about. The difference lies in how you manage it when you are already with somebody. Some people see it as a challenge to the strength of the relationship, while others simply falter at inducement of excitement and adrenaline.
对，爱是可以重来
但是，对一个人的爱，对一个人的感情，对一个人的记忆，一旦错过了，就再也不能重来了．
Whatever that you had with this special person that you have set ur sight on, can never be replaced by another person.
Love can happen again and again.
The love between you and that person, wont ever happen again.
Therefore, even though one person can have many relationships in his life time, at the end of the day, each relationship is precious. Keeping that in mind, one will be more careful about wanting to end the relationship.
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